Okay, I’m going to spend the week designing the best Valentine’s Day Webinar that I can create, and I’m excited to teach you some great new stuff! (And then I’m going to take a long weekend and just relax and have some Valentines fun with my girl!)
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Great stuff that you send us. I’m very happy to have purchased your products.
Me too! I think this one is going to super-helpful to a lot of the guys.
Good questions Alex but not quite my problem. How do “I” stay interested? Women are shallow, melodramatic, don’t have clue what they really want and DON’T want their problems solved. They want and need conflict and if they don’t happen to have any they’ll invent some. Doesn’t matter if you can stack their orgasms, make them squirt or provide a good home for them. They just refuse to be happy. So I got single.
Now the problem is how do I get my interest in them back. Plenty of beautiful women out there and I’ve dated a few of them but it doesn’t take long to see the female psych show up and I split. No thank you.
So the question becomes: How do “I” stay interested??? Or even get interested again.
Well Ken, at least you’re consistent. I’ve answered that question for you a dozen times. Either you don’t read my replies or you’re not actually interested in having that question answered, preferring, I suppose, to be “right” than to be happy.
I would prefer you to be happy, but I won’t (and can’t) force my preferences upon you.
Obviously I didn’t get the answer. Perhaps I missed a couple of your emails. I did have a great relationship when I was young but circumstances came up that interupted that one. So I know its doable and have been looking for it for a long time now.
Not interested in being “right” either. I’ve overcome a lot in life (war, cancer, IRS, and a few other things) and overall I’m a pretty happy guy without a woman in my life. Which sems to offend them. But I remember how good it can be and would like that again in my life. I understand the dopamine oxytocin connection but have never liked porno. So I’ll keep on reading your material to see if I “get it” one of these times. Thanks for the prompt reply even though I haven’t “gotten it” yet. The search goes on…
Hey buddy, you know, if you want to use my blog to post and vent, I’m good with that. Your points speak for a HUGE number of men, and I want you (and all of them) to know that I’m listening. So post away.
But if your questions are more than just rhetorical (and I see that they are not), and you actually want the answers to your questions with ideas that you can take REAL ACTION on, and actually change your life (and I don’t think you do), then re-read the things I’ve been saying to you and actually sit down and DO something about it (which I don’t think you will).
Truly brother, I DO get you. I understand you. I don’t think you’re crazy. I know why you feel the way you do and I know it feels REAL to you because you can show me the facts that prove it. And that’s how confirmation bias works. We find the facts that confirm what we believe.
And getting on here and asking your rhetorical questions is just you looking for commiseration, it’s a cry of rage in the dark, and not in any way a true call for help in changing what YOU BELIEVE to be the dark and cynical truth of women.
But you never answer my question:
How can it be that I and all of my close married friends, who are all your age, have completely different experiences of women? How does your reality about women jive with the facts of MY reality with women?
So I keep answering you, not because I believe you actually want help, but because I actually give a shit and want you to be happy, and the only way for me to do that is to CHANGE YOUR MIND about one little thing…
Which is to change your mind from asking rhetorical questions of hopelessness to actually wanting the answers to those questions.
You say you are happy with your status quo, but you keep posting. And that’s because, somewhere deep inside of you, Ken, there is a little voice that knows that you could be much, much happier if you had a vibrant, sexy, fun, passionate, and playful relationship with a woman that was real and lasting.
So if you’re still playing along, here’s where I answered you:
Thanks Alex, You’re right, somewhere along the line I got cynical. I was quite sick for a very long time but still made a lot of money. Thus, I probably drew into my life “sick” women. Parasitic types that just saw the money. Being as sick as I was I wasn’t capable of seeing their true nature. Just visited my sister tonight who told me she saw it in my last wife immediately. Me? too blind to see at the time.
But I remember how good it can be and am going for that. Not sick anymore. I’ve overcome too much in my life to let this stop me. Wish me luck…Thanks again.
Whoa… Ken, seriously, you just made my whole day. Good luck my friend.
Thank you for the great education I wish I had a long time ago. Using your insights to help make my new long term relationship a passionate one.
Bias confirmation, rhetorical questions of hopelessness to real answers..wow Alex, you really changed my mind about some things. And I can apply this to those huge, monster issues like race. Thank you so much! Now I can dig in and see where it takes me. Sorry to intrude. I am a woman. Hope I don’t offend.
Awesome reply, Alex! I work in social media. Seriously..an amazing public reply to Ken! PS…I totally dig you! 🙂
You give great info on Sex, Intimacy and Relationships…