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I'm starting to see a pattern in what is going
wrong in people's sexual relationships.
And while a lot of the blame could be put on
women, the fact is, when it comes to great sex,
there's not that much a woman is able to contribute--
if her partner is... well... "not very good".
On the other hand, if a woman has problems, a
skilled lover can break her out of her shell and
help her to release her inner sex-goddess, and
then the sex is great for both of them.
That's why, when the sex isn't really as good
as it should be (or you'd like it to be), it
does no good to blame HER.
In fact, "blaming her" might very well be a
symptom of the problem that I'm talking about.
And if you can fix this one thing, not only
will it solve something that you're doing wrong,
but, seriously, it could make you absolutely
masterful in the bedroom nearly instantly... and
it could completely transform your relationship.
The reason is that this problem (that almost
EVERY GUY seems to suffer with) creates an
avalanche of other problems in your sex life.
Whereas when a man has this one issue completely
handled, it can likewise create a tidal wave of
other great things that you start doing RIGHT...
AUTOMATICALLY, just by getting this one thing
right.
Have I got you in enough suspense yet?
I'm talking about "sexual insecurities."
Sexual insecurity can take a lot of different
forms-- from straight up anxiety, to just not
having the confidence to really "go for" what
you really want in the bedroom...
In its most common form, it's just a guy who
is not willing to take the lead-- who doesn't
really know how to "seduce" his woman so he just
waits for her to be "in the mood", who doesn't
really know exactly how to THRILL her in the
bedroom, so he just goes through the physical
act of sex and hopes that she'll say something if
there's something she wants.
I get a lot of guys writing to me that they
have a problem with not lasting long enough in
bed...
But, in fact, for most of them, that's not
the problem at all. The problem is that they
have sexual insecurities.
It's like a guy saying that his problem is
that he always has a black eye and what can he
do to make it hurt less...
The black eye isn't the problem, the problem
is that he keeps getting punched in the face.
Now if it turns out that he's in the habit of
walking up to every guy that is twice his size
and challenging him to a fight... am I going to
tell this guy to take an aspirin and use an ice-
pack on the eye?
No!
I'm going to tell him to stop getting into
fights and find something better to do with his
time...
Or at least take a few boxing lessons and
learn to cover his head better.
So guys tell me that that their wife is never
in the mood for sex...
And guys tell me that their girlfriend doesn't
make any noise during sex and he's not sure if
she's enjoying it...
And guys tell me all of these things that they
think are going wrong with their relationship...
And almost every time, I realize pretty quickly
that they are describing the black eye and they
are asking me for aspirin and an ice-pack.
And what all of these guys actually need are
"boxing lessons".
What I mean is... All of these guys have the
same problem, and that problem is SEXUAL
INSECURITIES.
If you completely turned these guys around
and gave them powerful Sexual Confidence, they
would have exactly zero of these other issues in
their lives.
But forget that for a minute because powerful
Sexual Confidence is something you hear me talk
about a lot and it's a big issue that takes time
and practice to acquire.
Most of these guys would find that their
"problems" would go away and that their woman
would be thrilled with their sex life if they
could just feel GOOD about their sexuality.
Now I don't mean that they don't think that
sex feels good.
Every guy thinks that sex feels good.
The question is does he feel good, reasonably
confident, and secure about his sexuality and his
masculinity.
The answer is almost always, "no."
And the reason that it's almost always "no" is
that modern society has all but destroyed the
chances for ANY guy to feel good about his
masculinity.
When I talk about feeling good about sexuality,
I mean feeling good about being a man, feeling
good about masculine desires (for sex), feeling
good about your male body and the way you look.
Here's how weird and messed up our world is:
There are dozens and dozens of things that
make you feel BADLY about your sexuality...
If you weren't a very good athlete in school,
you feel like you are not masculine.
If you hit puberty late, you feel like you are
not masculine.
If your father never let you make you own
decisions as a child or didn't give you any praise
for your accomplishments, you feel like you are
not masculine.
If the first girl you had a crush on thought
you were a loser, you will feel like you are not
masculine.
If you feel fear or back down from a fight, you
will grow up feeling like you are not masculine.
...And that's just the beginning...
Because there is also religion at an early
age making you feel badly or feel guilty for your
natural masculine desires... telling you that you
should be ashamed of them.
And your parents might do the same.
And there are teachers and authority figures
in your life telling you that when you behave
in masculine ways as a child-- from being "too
loud", or "too wild", or exploring where you
shouldn't, or being aggressive... these things
are BAD.
Is it any wonder that men today are confused
about their masculinity and have insecurities
about their sexuality?
So there is this big list of things that can
make you feel sexually insecure or uncomfortable
with your masculinity-- and obviously I could
have made this list much, much longer...
So the next question has to be: what is there
that does the reverse... what can men do to make
them feel GOOD about their masculinity and their
sexuality.
Well probably there should be many things, but
for most men there is this one thing that they
see, from the time they are young boys, that is
the "ultimate act" that will define them as men...
Sex.
Sex has become the "right of passage," and
the "coming of age" ceremony that is supposed to
make us "men".
Forget for a moment that sex does nothing of
the kind and that there is nothing particularly
manly or masculine about being able to have sex...
every animal on the planet manages it just fine.
But this is the role that sex has taken in our
lives, and so, is it any wonder men feel a certain
amount of pressure or anxiety around this whole
area?
Any man could be GREAT in bed if only he could
leave behind the guilt, the shame, the pressure...
all of this extra BAGGAGE that surrounds sex...
If you could just feel good about being your
sexuality and your masculinity... if it wasn't
such a big deal...
Because if you take all of that extra baggage
out of the situation... what's left?
Just you and your woman, and your desire to
enjoy each other and please each other.
And that...
That's pure magic.
There are basically 2 choices for you if you
want to learn to become more comfortable and
confident about your sexuality and your masculinity.
1) Years of therapy
2) Gain the skills and COMPETENCE that lead
to CONFIDENCE
If you chose option #2 then you are in the
right place. These newsletters, over time, will
give you exactly that kind of competence.
As you apply these ideas in your relationship,
over time, you will see great RESULTS and that
will lead to more confidence and less anxiety.
BUT...
You will get much faster results if you can
recognize the problem. If you can clearly see it
in yourself when you are feeling "pressure to
perform" or anxiety around talking about sex or
initiating sex with your woman.
Isn't it interesting that you can marry a
woman that you feel great love for, that you can
think of her as your best friend, that you can
truly enjoy spending time with her, that you even
love the sex you have when it goes well...
And STILL, you can feel a certain amount of
anxiousness around the issue and have difficulty
asking for you what you want...
You can STILL feel nervous about whether she
is enjoying it or just doing things for your sake...
You can STILL feel weird about trying to seduce
her and fear rejection...
And so you end up doing exactly what I was
talking about at the very beginning of this
newsletter--
"In its most common form, it's just a guy who
is not willing to take the lead-- who doesn't
really know how to "seduce" his woman so he just
waits for her to be "in the mood", who doesn't
really know exactly how to THRILL her in the
bedroom, so he just goes through the physical
act of sex and hopes that she'll say something if
there's something she wants."
Here's the bottom line: If you feel insecure
about your sexuality and masculinity, then when
you DO try to seduce your woman or you try to
give her more intense orgasms... you FEEL ANXIOUS.
And women can sense this and it KILLS SEXUAL
ATTRACTION for them.
But when you feel good about yourself... it's
all EASY.
When you feel good about your sexuality, she
will get swept up in your confidence and ease,
and NOTHING IS A BIGGER TURN-ON for her.
She will become more sexual, more adventurous,
she will be more eager to please you, and she
will have orgasms more easily and far more
powerfully.
Option #2 is sounding pretty good, huh?
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