Powerful Tips For Female Orgasm


   Below are some great emails from readers that
really get to the main points of what great sex is
all about. 

   My answers include tips on giving women stronger
orgasms and how to give her first orgasm... as well
as tips on lasting longer and building emotional
intimacy in a sexual relationship...


***SUCCESS STORY***

Hi Alex,  I'm always keen to learn and experiment
with new techniques. I've had instant success with
several of the techniques that you suggest.

I have been married for 17 years and your advice
has made a refreshing change to our relationship.
I am an attentive lover and I can always make my
wife "come" because I love to eat pussy but there
was always the issue of intensity.

Most of this stems from a psychological problem
caused by a previous boyfriend... (it's amazing
how long the damage lasts for) and an asexual
family upbringing.

My wife has learnt to trust me implicitly but still
found it impossible to let go and fell into the
group where she felt that she physically could not
take any more stimulation. This has always been a
difficult barrier to breach in our sexual
relationship, as I knew that she was capable of
experiencing so much more.

Despite continual attempts, I had never found the
right way to connect with her to get her past this
physiological/emotional barrier. In some respects
it was a battle of wills and I agree that the
"permissional side" is also a major factor but I
never wanted to "force the issue" as that's
totally counterproductive and not in my nature. 

By confidently taking control by using a mixture
of commands, a little physical restaint,
reassurance that she will be OK, and compliments
she is now experiencing the most extremely intense
orgasms.... so thank you for sharing this advice.


Like many things in life.. confidence is the key...
your advice gave me the confidence to push her over
the edge and to explore new limits. It was good to
draw on other peoples' experiences as I did not
want to go "too" far and betray her trust. Armed
with this knowledge I will now aim to take her
even higher....which should also have positive
side-effects for me, as I have already experienced
remarkable changes in her sexual interest towards
me within a week.... I'll let you know how things
develop in the future.   

Many Thanks and Best Regards   

          C. in London  


>>>MY COMMENTS

   You're welcome!

   It's great to hear that you are having so much
success with my love making techniques and "philosophies."

   It's an honor to be able bring more joy and
fulfillment to a marriage that's been together for
17 years.  It makes me feel great to read this
stuff.

   And yes, you are so right about how long the
damage can last from a sexually abusive past.
In fact, it lasts forever unless something is
done to fix it... it just won't heal on its own.

   Your wife is extremely fortunate to have a man
like you in her life who can help her heal.  That
is what love is all about.

   The stuff you are doing (and talking about in
this email) is VERY advanced, and it's great to
hear that guys that are reading it are "getting
it" and that it's working for them.

   Now, for guys reading along, the stuff that
"C." is talking about in his email like "commands"
and "physical restraint" are taken out of context
here, and you should NOT go out now thinking that
"physical restraint" is a great idea with the
girl you just started dating.

   To be clear:  USING FORCE IS NEVER OKAY.

   Not only is it wrong, it can land you in jail.

   In the context of a loving and trusting
relationship, there are concepts of "giving
permission" and "taking responsibility" when it
comes to the emotional aspects of women
experiencing levels of pleasure that are, frankly,
scary for them... and that's what C. is talking
about.

   It is about EARNING Sexual Trust, not about
forcing anything.  And that only happens through
sexual confidence and intimacy.

   Please don't try this stuff without reading
the book to understand the context.


***QUESTION***

hey wuts up alex... so my girlfriend has never had
an orgasm and ive tried new positions and ive used
a vibrating cock ring and warming lube... but my
buddys girlfriend is getting her a bullet for her
birthday so we are going to try that this weekend
... but what if that doesnt work, what then...
im kinda runnin outta ideas here...



          b.


>>>MY COMMENTS

   This one cracked me up man.

   Well, nobody can say you aren't trying!  "A"
for effort, my man.

   But there is an old saying that goes: "If you
keep doing what you've done, you're going to
keep getting what you got..."

   If vibrating cock-rings aren't doing it, the
bullet won't give her an orgasm either.

   Now, the simple fact is, there are a million
reasons that a woman can't achieve orgasm, and I
can't know for sure what is going on with your
girlfriend...

   But basically it's a pretty good bet that if
she can't come using a vibrator then the issue is
NOT physical.

   In other words, if a vibrator can't do it then
there is no sex positions, no device, no amount of
stamina, and no special g spot technique that is
going to work to bring her orgasm.

   So if it's not a physical issue what does that
leave?

   Hmmm...

   If you said, "emotional" then you get to go to
the head of the class (and you'll soon be able to
pretty much give any woman an orgasm if you're
willing to learn a few things and be patient).

   The first thing you've got to do (and her
friends have got to do too), is stop pressuring
the poor girl.

   Feeling pressure to have an orgasm is, for
women, pretty much the same thing as putting
pressure on a guy when he's having trouble
getting it up.

   Imagine you've been stressed at work and you're
a little slow on getting hard, and your girlfriend
takes out a stop watch and says, "come on!  I
haven't got all night!  Get hard already!"

   That's pretty much what's going on for your
girlfriend right now.

   So the first thing you're going to need to do
is tell her that, at least for a little while,
you're going to both stop trying to make her come
and focus instead on just enjoying the pleasure
that she already has from sex. 

   (Sex feels great even when you don't have an
orgasm, after all).

   This will be the first step towards building
the "Sexual Trust" that will be necessary to get
her emotionally able to come. 

   Next you're going to have to start making her
feel good about her sexuality.  (Like, the opposite
of inadequate, which is what the "pressure" is
making her feel right now).

   Eventually, she will sexually surrender herself
to you, and that will allow you to "give her
permission" to experience an orgasm... something
that, for  one reason or another, some women
simply can't do for themselves.

   I truly hope this is helpful for you, but I
understand if it's frustrating for you (as it is
for me) that I can't get into all the specifics
on this stuff.  It would take me a whole book
to do it justice...

   Which is exactly why I wrote a book on it.

   Anyway, the second half of that old saying is:

   "...Now that you know what you know, what are
you going to do differently to get what you want?"



***QUESTION***

Hey Alex, I'm currently deployed in Afghanistan
for a year and my wife and I have been married for
4 months and I've been away for 3 of the 4.

How can I find ways to keep the spice in our
relationship so far away from her? I've tried to
write her spicy emails and have tried to instigate
phone sex with her but she's very shy and innocent
and feels weird trying that sort of things. If
there's anything you could do to help or have any
ideas, I would really appreciate it.



          Thanks, J.



PS: I look forward to going home and trying the
things in your book and I love the newsletters. Keep
up the good work.


>>>MY COMMENTS:

   Hey man, my heart really goes out to you.  It
truly sucks with a capital "S" to be away from
the woman you love for such a long time.

   So there's 2 things that are really going on
here, man... or I should say 2 people's needs.

   You're a young guy who is doing without his
woman and let's face it, there's not much that's
going to be too "spicy" for you while you are in
Afghanistan... and you want to be a faithful guy
while you are away, so you're thinking that a
hot email (and maybe some sexy pictures) from
your new wife would be pretty cool...

   But you'd be wrong to think that her needs are
the same as your needs.

   Women love sex just as much or MORE than men...
but they are wired completely differently in the
way they think about it and in the way they feel
about it.

   So look, if you're worried right now that
you need to give her some sexual stimulation all
the way from Afghanistan to keep her faithful...
you could not be more wrong.

   She does not need that, and she will absolutely
be faithful to you... if you give her what SHE
needs, not what you think she needs based on what
YOU would like.

   And more than anything else, right now, what she
needs is your EMOTIONAL reassurance.

   Think about this from her point of view--

   She is worried sick about your safety, she is
lonely, and she is still insecure about her new
role as a "wife."

   When you call and want phone sex, she's not
thinking you're trying to fulfill HER needs, she's
thinking you're horny and frustrated.

   She's probably also aware that you've got
"options"... because where there's soldiers,
there's "options".

   Forget the phone sex for a while. 

   Instead, reassure her of your love, and at
every opportunity, reassure her of your future
together.  Tell her that she is always in your
thoughts and in your heart (and not just because
you're really horny and miss screwing her).

   I know that's not what you mean, and YOU know
that's not what you mean... but I assure you,
WOMEN ARE ALWAYS LOOKING FOR THE HIDDEN MEANING to
what you are saying...

   So when you call from thousands of miles away
and want phone sex, she is wondering if you
miss her pussy more than you miss HER.

   Treat a woman like a piece of meat and she
sometimes acts like one.  In the same way, ever
notice that guys that are jealous always get
cheated on?

   It's because people behave and treat you
exactly the way you TRAIN THEM to behave and
treat you.

   So send her love and sweet promises for the
future.  Tell her to send you photos of herself--
and not just sexy ones-- to remind you of her
smile and her eyes and her the pretty way she
tilts her head when she's laughing (or whatever it
is that she does that you love about her).

   Then later maybe she'll also want to send
you some spicy pictures and have phone sex.

   Maybe.

   Let her be shy and innocent while she is
scared and lonely.  When you get home you can
spend a lot of time easing her out of her shell
and making it up to her!  ...And teach her how to
be as spicy as you like it.

   The single most important thing you can do
for  your relationship right NOW is keep your
head low and come home safe and whole, my friend.

   Be careful, do the job, and get your ass back
home in one piece to your woman.


***QUESTION***

i have been with my girl friend for six months and
i have tried almost every thing and it is almost
impossible to make my girlfriend orgasm can you
give me some advice man to man. i have almost gotten
her there before but when it comes down to it it is
hard for me to hold my load. how can i do it


>>>MY COMMENTS:

   Hey man, I've written so many replies lately
on how to last longer that I feel like you guys
must be getting bored with it...

   So first, before giving you a tip on lasting
longer, let's look at what the real problem
problem probably is...

   You're telling me that it's "almost impossible"
to make your girlfriend come... which means to me
that you're saying you can sometimes do it, it just
takes a long time.

   So first of all, relax with the rushing thing.

   You can, over time, train her to come much more
quickly, but the main thing is that there are
many things you can do BEFORE intercourse to make
her come.

   Why not challenge yourself to make her come
TWICE before you begin intercourse.  That will
make her come much more quickly the 3rd time
when you do start the penetration part of the
love making  (for most women-- obviously every
woman is different, but this is very good bet).

   Use your fingers on her g-spot, your tongue
on her clitoris, or both.

   But even more importantly than that-- make
sure that you get her emotionally ready first by
making her feel beautiful and sexy and comfortable
with her sexuality by using my concept of "All
Day Foreplay".

   During the day, do a lot of little things to
make her feel sexy and desired.  Use little
displays of male dominance, like grabbing her
from behind and kissing her neck when she is
doing the dishes and whispering in her ear that
you're going to do evil things to her body later...

   Push her against a wall with your body weight
and kiss her deeply when you pass her in the hall...

   Stroke her hair, look into her eyes, and tell
her she's the sexiest creature on the planet...

   Then, later, when you get to the bedroom, I
promise, things will go much more smoothly.

   Okay, here's your tip for lasting longer...

   It's a new one that I haven't talked about
before, and it sounds... well... kind of crazy
when you hear about it, but...

   IT WORKS.

   When you're feeling like you are getting too
excited (but BEFORE you really feel like it's
about to be too late), just take a long, deep
breath in through your nose, as full as you can...
take it all the way in...

   And then sigh it out through your mouth with
with an "ahhhh" sound, like you just settled into
a comfortable position on the couch after a long
day of work.

   This trips your "relax" circuitry into place,
and you should feel an instant reduction in the
drive to ejaculate.

   Just try to hold that relaxed state, smile
down at her, tell her she's beautiful, and
keep going until you need to take another sigh.

   Try it out tonight!


***QUESTION***

I have been with a girl for a few months who has
never had an ogasim.  Every time i get her to the
point of the big O she makes me stop either by
pushing me away or moving herself off of me. She
says that its "too intense", and she "cant take
anymore".

This has never happened to me except after a girl
has cum. Its very frustrating for me as someone
who prides themself as being good in the sack. I
was just wondering if you had any advice.

          Sincerely J.


>>>MY COMMENTS:

   Hey man, there's some good news here--

   First of all, you shouldn't be frustrated,
you're dealing with something that's pretty
common. 1 out of 7 women never experience an
orgasm. 

   The other good thing is that this girl probably
will.  I say that because the "too intense" thing
means that she's very close, but that she's
"denying herself permission" to come.

   I know that sounds weird, but I promise you,
it's very real.

   Dealing with the intensity she is feeling and
then considering going even FURTHER is SCARY to
her.

   It's like chickening out while standing on a
bridge with a bungee cord around your ankle. 

   And trying to "force" her over the side is
going to make her panic and lock up.

   And no "technique" is going to do the trick
either.

   You are going to have to win her Sexual Trust
to make it happen for her.

   Once you have her sexual trust, she will be
able to sexually surrender to you, and that will
mean that instead of needing her own permission,
she will allow YOU to make the decision for her.

   When you have her sexual trust, and you give
her PERMISSION to come, she will surrender and
have an orgasm on the spot.

   I know, I know, it sounds kind of metaphysical
and weird.  But that is EXACTLY how it is going
to happen for her.

   I've written entire Newsletters on Sexual
Trust, but in truth, I just can't explain it all
in this short format because there are aspects of
female psychology, aspects of your own internal
confidence, emotional aspects, communication
aspects...

   You get the idea.

   So, look, if this all makes sense to you, then
take your time, do not make her feel pressured,
and spend the next week or two building her sexual
trust, and then you will find that being the first
guy to make her come is quite easy.

   BUT... make sure you are not just building
"trust" by being nice, loyal, etc.... that is
simply not the same thing and you could actually
end up doing all the WRONG things.

   So if you are not certain, or want to take the
next step (ESPECIALLY if  you see this woman as
potentially your long-term partner), you should
definitely download my online eBook.

   It will take you through this process exactly,
and step-by-step.  I recommend you read the
entire book from beginning to end to fully get
the concept I'm talking about.

   This idea of Sexual Trust is layered throughout
the book with examples of its application in each
situation.  When you are done, it will change the
way you think about being "good in bed".

   I think you should at least check it out.  You
don't have to pay for it up front, so you have a
chance to see for yourself what I'm talking about.

   Get the details here:
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