Most guys are clueless in bed. 

   But don't take my word for it-- ask any woman
that you are good friends with.  Better yet, ask
a woman that is bi-sexual (so she has something
to compare men to). 

   The interesting thing is that there really is
no good reason for this, because the reasons that
men fail in bed are ridiculously easy to fix with simple sex tips.

   But for a variety of reasons, most men don't ever seek sex tips from outside sources.

   Here's another interesting thing-- one of the
reasons that men don't bother to fix these easy-
to-correct mistakes is NOT because they don't
care...

   Most men WANT to be good in bed.  Most men WANT
to know how to have sex to please the woman that they are with... they WANT the sex tips...

   So it's not surprising that one of the MAIN
reasons they keep screwing up is that they just
DON'T KNOW any better.

   Fortunately for the woman (or women) in YOUR
life, you are not like "most" men.  You are
reading this newsletter, and that means you care
enough to figure out what sex tips are out there,
try some stuff out, and figure out what you like
and what makes sense to add to your life.

   I would never say that you should follow ALL of
my advice or that every tip that I share is right
for every guy. 

   I put it out there, and it's up to you to
decide if it's something you want to try out or
not.  Every man is different, every woman is
different, every person is unique.

   I hope that you find some of this stuff useful,
and more, I hope that some of this stuff really
works for your love life.

   You just have to try it for yourself.

   The first reason that so many men fail in the
bedroom is that they think that women want the
same things that they want.

   This is a natural, human trait.  We never
REALLY know what other people are thinking, so in
trying to figure it out, we sometimes assume that
they are thinking the same thing that WE would
think in the same situation.

   This can lead to a lot of misunderstandings.

   People who lie a lot always think other people
are lying, and people who never lie are often
duped because they think that the other person is
probably telling the truth.

   And likewise, a man might start to think that
a woman wants the same kinds of things in bed that
he does. 

   This works badly in both directions...

   First it works badly because he thinks that the
rhythm and intensity that he uses when he jerks
off is probably what she wants when he is making
love to her... and he thinks that the level of
passion or quiet will be the same for her... or
that she will be in the mood from the same things
that get him in the mood.

   Lucky coincidences DO happen... but rarely
THAT lucky, and most of these things just aren't
going to line up.

   It also works badly in the other direction
because he assumes that the signals she is
sending to him, and things that she is doing are
WRONG if they are not what HE would do.

   For example, if she slows him down or resists
taking off her panties, he may think, "if I were
turned on, my underwear would be coming right off
now, so she must not be turned on."

   Unfortunately, she may be VERY turned on, but
slowing things down and resisting a bit is part
of what she enjoys in the bedroom.

   But it's too late, he's decided what it means
(wrongly), and feels hurt or rejected and decides
that he'd rather roll over and go to sleep.

   That is one TINY example of literally hundreds
of things that can go completely wrong when a man
thinks that a woman should respond the same way
that he would in the same situation. Could this guy use a few sex tips?

   Okay, moving on to sex tip number 2...

   The second big way in which men fail in the
bedroom is when they know a bit more than the
first guy-- they know that women behave very
differently from men, so... they go out and read
up on WHAT WOMEN WANT.

   Strangely, this can turn out to be an even
bigger mistake.

   These guys read WOMEN's books or magazine articles
about "for sex tips."  They
check out women's magazines and see what the women
are talking about-- what they say they like.  They
hear about some love making technique that "drives all women
wild."

   The problem is, they now have this model in
their head about what one particular woman likes,
and, as it turns out... women are wildly different
in their sexual preferences.

   In fact-- even the woman who wrote the sex tips article
about what women like (speaking for herself, of
course) might not like what SHE herself wrote about
on some other day or with some other man.

   Because, for a woman, what she likes can change
drastically with her mood and emotional state. 
And it can change even MORE when she is with a
different partner.

   With a different man, the chemistry changes--
she doesn't feel comfortable with the same type of
love-making, or there is something deeper she
suddenly wants to explore because her heart is
more open to it.

   But the guy that read the article-- he is sure
he has information that is good because it was
written by a WOMAN.  She surely knows what women
want!

   So he does what he's told to do in the article
and he can't understand why the sex tips don't work on
his girl.  Maybe he becomes frustrated with
himself that he can't get it right, that he must
be doing something wrong or that there's something
wrong with him...

   Or maybe he gets frustrated with his woman,
thinking that she's just not normal or that she
won't "open up" enough to get the amazing pleasure
that the magazine's sex tips promised him that she'd
experience.

   Either way, it's a recipe for bad sex and it
could harm your relationship.

   There's another problem with taking someone
else's advice on what you should do in bed with
your girl... and that problem is that it might be
"inauthentic."

   This is what happens when you get so caught up
in the tip, trick, or love making technique, that you forget
about the living, breathing girl that is with you...
Or you even forget your own pleasure and enjoyment.

   It's like trying to put together a piece of
furniture with an instruction manual.  Not exactly
the emotional state you should be in when making
love.

   A good way to avoid this problem:

   Only try out a sex tip or love making technique when it's
something that, when you read it, really turns
you on. 

   In other words, if it's something that makes
you think, hmmm, I would really like to experience
that!  Then go ahead and add it to your "play
list" because it will across as something that
is authentic to YOU.

   If, on the other hand, you are doing it just
because someone told you that it would get your
girl off "guaranteed" then it will just seem weird,
and she'll probably sense that you are "trying out
a love making technique" instead of being involved in making
love with her.

   Okay, I saved the best (worst) sex tip problem for last...

   The number one worst thing that men do that
really sets them up for failure in bed is...

   Getting caught up in their own dumb
insecurities.

   First of all, let me explain that the reason
that I'm calling them dumb is that these
insecurities are usually both the chicken and
the egg... the insecurities are not based on
anything in the real world-- they are based on...
themselves... Insecurities based on insecurities.

   Like worrying that maybe you aren't attractive
or sexy enough (she's in bed with you, isn't she?)

   Or worrying that your dick isn't big enough
(According to every anonymous survey on the subject,
men who's penises are exactly average in size rate
themselves as "below average")

   Worrying that you won't be able to get it up,
or that you won't last long enough (worrying about
it is the EXACT CAUSE of these problems).

   Worrying that you won't be good in bed (again,
one of the main causes, right here).

   These worries all CAUSE the worries that guys
worry about!

   On a personal note... I get that these
insecurities are not easy to handle and that the
problems can be VERY real to the guy experiencing
them... if you want SPECIFIC and COMPLETE ways to
deal with each of these individually, you can find
it all here:

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   But for now in this Newsletter I will be talking
about ONE, incredibly powerful sex tip for overcoming
ALL of these insecurities... and all of the other
mistakes I talked about above too.

   The problem with these insecurities, other
than the fact that they are self-perpetuating, is
that they cause all sorts of problems in the
bedroom beyond the obvious ones.

   When you are experiencing feelings of anxiety
or insecurity about sex, it can make you UNWILLING
to be authentic and "present" with your lover.

   To a guy in a serious relationship or marriage
that is really, really damaging.

   But even for a guy who is going to bed for the
first time with a new partner, the wall that he
creates by being afraid to be his authentic
self deprives both him and the woman from the kind
of powerful sexual pleasure they could be enjoying.

   As I mentioned in the "first mistake" above,
women are not wired the same way that men are in
the way they enjoy sex.

   For a guy, the level of authenticity of the
girl that he is in bed with may not be that
important in his list of what turns him on. 
(After all, many men "pay" for sex-- not
authenticity there!  But that would be very,
very uncommon for a woman).

   But for a woman, your authenticity, your
ability to completely be yourself, is the BIGGEST
turn on.  It feels to her like CONFIDENCE, and it
earns her SEXUAL TRUST, which allows her to really
surrender herself to the experience.

   For a woman, experiencing an orgasm isn't
something that YOU DO to her, as much as something
that she ALLOWS based on her feelings of trust and
connection.

   When a guy is feeling insecure, she tenses up
and feels what she might describe as "weirdness".
Basically, she'll be uncomfortable.

   Here is a simple fact that most guys just don't
understand:

   A guy who is comfortable with himself, who
accepts his own sexuality and is confident about
what he wants to do and what he enjoys in the
bedroom, is, for a woman, going to be GREAT in bed...
even if he doesn't read ANY sex tips or know any special love making techniques, even
if he doesn't have a big penis, even if he can't
last very long.

   Okay, so now that I've delivered on the subject
line of "Why Most Men Fail In Bed," I'll be a good
sport and give you a great, powerful sex tip that can
overcome ALL of these typical problems that guys
have.

   One tip...?  For ALL of them...?

   Yep!

   It's what I refer to in my book as "Paying
Attention" or "Becoming Present". 

   Regardless of what you want to call it, what
it basically means is that you "tune in" to the
woman you are with.  You "pay attention" to how
she is responding and what she is feeling.

   This is MUCH deeper than just listening to
what she is telling you.

   Consider Paying Attention to be a two-way
system... 

   In the first direction it is really listening
to her body, her breathing, her muscle tension,
her moaning, the changing temperature of her skin...
so that you can tell, in real time, EXACTLY what
she likes and doesn't like... what's working and
what's not working...

   In the second direction it is completely
selfish as you tune into her body, her smell, her
texture, her breathing... for your own pleasure...
for soaking up the enjoyment of her feminine
sexuality.

   Combined, this is the basic foundation for
truly incredible, mind-bendingly passionate love making.

   Paying Attention solves the first mistake that
men make, because instead of just assuming she
responds to the same love making techniques that you do... you actually
tune in and notice exactly what she is REALLY
responding to.

   You don't think at all about your ideas of
what she SHOULD like... you just explore and let
it happen in the PRESENT.  You are completely in
the moment. 

   Paying Attention solves the second mistake that
men make because if a sex tip or love making technique you read somewhere
is working, you can enjoy it and follow it to
where ever it leads you...

   But if it's not working, you'll know right
away and won't just keep pushing it, waiting for
something to happen that is never going to happen.

   Most often it PARTIALLY works-- there's
something about it that she seems to respond to,
but other things that she isn't...

   And when you Pay Attention it just flows
in the right way... when you are "tuned in" you
just keep what is working and then go forward from
there, exploring her body in the ways that she
responds to and the ways that that turn YOU on the
most at the same time.

   And Paying Attention solves ALL of those
pointless insecurities that almost all men feel
at one time or another... because they really do
come from themselves-- they are created as you
think about them...

   But the mind can only focus on one thing at
a time.

   So when you Pay Attention to HER instead of
whatever insecurity you were thinking about, it
just dissolves-- disappearing back to exactly
where it came from in the first place. 

   Insecurities are about thinking about PAST
failures or ideas you gave yourself in the PAST...
and worrying about what might happen in the FUTURE
or how she might respond or you might fail to
perform in the FUTURE.

   Paying Attention takes your focus away from the
PAST and away from the FUTURE, and puts you firmly
in the PRESENT.

   Which is why I sometimes call it "Becoming
Present."  (A term I heard from a yoga instructor). Sex tips from yoga instructors!

   As you get better and better at this basic
love making technique of Paying Attention, you will create
deeper intimacy with your lover as well.  And then
really amazing things begin to happen...

   Things that, seriously, you wouldn't even
believe me if I wrote them in a Newsletter.

   Paying Attention is the single best "first
sex tip" that I can recommend to any guy who wants
to improve his sex life... whether he is dating
and wants to really impress the woman that he is
with that he really "knows what he is doing," or
he is married for years and wants to rekindle the
spark, intimacy, and intensity of his love.

   Like I said, I don't think any guy should do
everything I say or take all of my suggestions.

   I just think you owe it to yourself to TRY this sex tip
out and see how it fits for you.  And in this
particular case, basically every guy I have shared
it with has told me that it really had a huge,
positive effect on their success in the bedroom.

   Once you start down this road you are really
going to want to take it up to the next level...

   I've got a lot of other things for you to try
on once you've built this basic foundation-- sex tips
that will take her sexual pleasure to a place that,
really, is almost unbelievable.

   Here's where to get more information on EXACTLY
what I'm talking about, click here now:

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