Hey man, let me ask you something... Is your sexual
relationship in the same place that it used to be?

   Is it as good?

   Or, has it gotten worse over the years, over time? 

   For most guys, the passion of a relationship
diminishes over time... But the truth is, maybe you
NEVER really had an incredible amount of passion in
the first place?

   Relationships are obviously built out of a lot
more than just sexual satisfaction, and sex is one of
those things that people find it pretty easy to let
slide...

   But, the truth is, over time, having a strong
sexual relationship is one of the cornerstones of
having a strong relationship. 

   For many guys that I speak to, they'll tell me
that the girl that they're dating (or even their
wife) has a much lower sex drive than they have,
and they wish that she was interested in having
sex more often. 

   But the truth is, what may be surprising to you,
is that A LOT OF WOMEN SAY THE SAME THING, and part
of the problem is that there is often a MAJOR
communication gap, where both of you really wish
that the sex was better or more frequent, or that
you connected better on a sexual level... but neither
of you really know how to get there. 

   So if you find that over time, she's not as
sexually adventurous as you'd like or she's less
passionate than she used to be, or you feel that
sense that there SHOULD be something more...
believe me, she's probably feeling the same thing. 

   So why can't you just agree to be more sexual?

   Why can't she just come to you and say, "I
wish we had a hotter sex life-- what say we work
on that together?

   Why does it seem, instead, that she's the one
putting on the brakes all the time?

   Well somewhere along the line, you guys broke
sexual trust with each other.  Or... like MANY
couples, you never really achieved it in the first
place.

   Sexual trust is a really interesting issue, and
one thing that's interesting about it is that it's a
very different thing for women than it is for men. 

   For men, sexual trust is largely the same thing
as sexual fidelity.

   You don't want her to cheat on you.

   Women are very very different and they have 
very different needs when it comes to sexual trust
in a relationship.  For them this is much more of
an emotional issue than a physical issue.

   Now, why is this important to you? 

   Because women really do not feel free to
experience the full amount of pleasure that they could
get from sex -- and in fact, many women can't even have
an orgasm at all -- unless they feel this sense of
sexual trust. 

   It may be interesting for you to know that a 
woman might not feel sexual trust for a man that
she loves in every other way... because sexual trust
is not the same thing as relationship trust. 

   Here's what I mean-- we generally think of the
word "trust" to mean you're not going to lie to her,
you're not going to cheat on her, you're not going
to suddenly leave her.

   But sexual trust is something different. 

   The man she feels sexual trust for is the one who
can make her feel positive enough about her OWN
sexuality that she can SURRENDER herself to him in
bed.  

   Okay, here comes the REALLY disturbing part...

   Often the one guy that a woman finds it most
difficult to have sexual trust with is... the man
she is in love with.

   Why?

   Because you're the guy that she has the most
to lose with if things turn weird, or if suddenly
you  do something that makes her feel uncomfortable
about her sexuality.

   Remember, for women in our society, there are so
many difficult things they have to deal with when it
comes to sex.  They're always thinking about "what's
he going to think about me in the morning?" "what
would society think about me?" "if I enjoy this too
much is there something wrong with me?" "are these
feelings bad?" 

   One thing about Sexual Trust that is true of
all forms of trust...  It's very difficult to earn,
but very easy to lose it... even in just an instant. 

   In fact, you can lose it without even knowing
it happened. 

   How?

   Because women TEST men. 

   Women will test you in many different areas of
life and most of the time you're not even aware of
it.  The reason they do this is to find out if you
are really the quality of man that you seem to be. 

   Women know that some day their hearts may be
broken.

   Now a man can wear the right clothing, he can
have the right job, he can say the right things,
but how does a woman really KNOW WHO YOU ARE...
who you authentically are? 

   Just based on what you tell her?  Just based on
the promises you make? 

   Well, that's one way. 

   But women are also gifted with another way that
nature gave them-- something that they do
unconsciously without even realizing it, which is
"testing". 

   A good example of how women test us is something
familiar like when she looks in the mirror and
turns around and looks at you and says, "Do I look
fat in these jeans?" 

   Well, this is a test.  What she really wants to
know is, "are you still happy with me, are you still
attracted to me?" 

   And as you know, as most men know, the answer
to that question can make a big difference on how
the rest of your night goes. 

   Another way that women test men is literally
to just throw a tantrum in the middle of a small
disagreement... and you think to yourself-- why is
she behaving this way?

   It doesn't make sense to you, and usually it
doesn't make sense to her either.  What's happening
is she's testing you. 

   What she really wants to know is, will this guy
stick with me if things get really bad?  She wants
to really know who it is she's dealing with on the
other side of this relationship, what you are really
made of. 

   Are you somebody that will stick with her
through thick and thin?

   Women also test us in the bedroom and these
tests could be so subtle that you completely miss
them-- yet if you screw them up... well there's a
good chance that that will have an impact on your
sex life over a very, very long time.

   If you've lost sexual trust in your relationship,
or, like in many relationships, you simply never
had it, then your relationship is in trouble.

   Now, I'm not saying that just because you don't
have sexual trust or because there isn't a great
deal of sexual passion in a relationship that the
relationship can't work or that the relationship
is going to end.

   Relationships are built on a lot more than just
sex, but the truth is, sex is a cornerstone of a
strong relationship, and when the sex is great,
it's a great motivation to deal with all of the
other issues that come up.

   It's a powerful "glue" in holding things
together when difficult issues come up and you
have to work through them.

   Also, I think that we all dream that the
relationship that we're going to end up in some
day is going to have "special chemistry".  Nobody
wants to be condemned to a marriage that's really
just passionless cooperation, both of you sort of
wishing that there was something more.

   And trust me, if you're wishing for more, she
is too.

   So, let's talk about sexual trust a little bit
and let's talk about how we can build it if we've
lost it-- even if we've never had it.

   So, here goes...

ALEX'S PATENTED 3-STEP PROCESS FOR BUILDING SEXUAL TRUST

STEP 1: ZERO JUDGMENTS

It's extremely important that a woman feels like
she is accepted for who she is. 

   One of the things that men do very frequently
is they say things, or they do subtle things, that
make your woman feel like you're disappointed in
her. 

   And, let's face it, if she's in a relationship
with you, and she has some kind of emotional
connection to you, nothing could be more painful
for her than to feel that you're disappointed.

   This is especially true when it comes to
matters of sex because it's an area where basically
everyone is very insecure in the first place. 

   Because society messes with women's heads so
much, and because there are so many double
standards, it's even more likely that she's going
to be very, very sensitive to the thought that you
might be disappointed in her sexually.

   The only way to avoid that is to make sure that
she NEVER, IN ANY WAY, feels like you're judging
her in the bedroom.

   It's important to know that sometimes you can
even make a POSITIVE judgment, and even that can
have a bad affect... because it implies that you
are evaluating her... and that you could just as
easily have evaluated her negatively.

   I'm not saying you can't compliment her... just
make sure she never feels like you are RATING her.

   Many women are so insecure about their sexuality
that they simply can't risk "letting go" and really
enjoying sex because they might make a funny face
or a strange sound and you might think it's weird
or laugh or make fun of her...

   And since she is so emotionally connected to you,
imagine how she would feel if that happened. 

   Well, if you said that she would feel hurt,
you'd be right, and if you think that she would feel
judged, you would definitely be right, but what you
might not know is that what you had just done is
broken her sexual trust...

   And that will have a HUGE effect on her ability
to enjoy sex with you after that... possibly
FOREVER.

   So starting today-- NO MORE JUDGMENTS.

   That can be harder to do than to say.  Many
men feel they are entitled to judge their woman,
they even think they are being CONSTRUCTIVE...

   Trust me-- being constructive in this way is
going to lead to a sexless relationship.

   For a woman to experience mind-blowing sex she
is going to have to sexually SURRENDER to you.

   For her to surrender she is going to have to
feel safe from judgment.

   And here's a little secret:

   The biggest reason that men judge women
sexually is to cover their OWN insecurities.


>>STEP 2: POSITIVE REINFORCEMENT

   Positive reinforcement is the opposite side of
the coin from judgment, and it is an absolutely
magical concept in all areas of your life.

   Why?

   Because any time you are communicating with
another person, positive reinforcement gets the
RESULTS that you want. 

   Right now, we're specifically talking about
sexuality and sexual trust.  And as it turns out,
in this area, positive reinforcement is more
important than in probably any other. 

   It's VERY important that EVERY time you talk
to your girlfriend or your wife about the subject
of sex that you do it always in a positive way...

   EVEN IF YOU FEEL LIKE SOMETHING IS WRONG. 

   Let me give you an example.  If you feel like
there isn't enough passion in the relationship, it
wouldn't be a good idea to say, "you know what
honey, I don't think there is enough passion in
this relationship." 

   Instead, what you want to do is find a way of
making a positive.  Like thinking about the last
time that she did something that WAS PASSIONATE
that you really LIKED, and then giving her
positive reinforcement on it.

   Say, "remember the last time you did this, that
or the other thing?  I thought that was REALLY HOT." 

   I'd like you to just stop for a moment and
think about how she would feel if you said that...

   Would she by psyched?  I bet she would.  Would
she want to do MORE things like that?  You better
believe she would.
 
   If there's a particular part of your woman's
body that you think could probably use a little
work, maybe you think she ought to go on a diet,
it's not a good idea to tell her, "hey honey,  I
think you should go on a diet.  Are you going to
eat that second piece of chocolate cake?" 

   Things like that never work.  You probably
already know they never work.  Instead what you
want to do is find the parts of her that you think
are already really sexy and TELL HER SO. 

   The more often that you tell her that you LIKE
her body, the more SHE'S going to be happy with
her body... and when she's happy with herself,
she's much more likely to do nice things for
herself (and for you). 

   Nobody wants to put in work for a body they
don't like.  Once you already like your body, it's
much easier to put in the work.  That's why people
that go to the gym often find it easier to KEEP
going-- because when they look at themselves in the
mirror, they like what they see, and that motivates
them to go. 

   But for people who first start going to the gym
and they look in the mirror and they don't like
what they see-- it's difficult to keep showing up. 

   Well, you need to help your woman with her
positive self image, not just for her body but
specifically with her sexuality. 

   MAKE HER FEEL GREAT ABOUT IT.

   What you want to do is make her feel sexy...
and really, nobody has more power to make her feel
sexy than you do.  By making her feel sexy, she's
going to become more and more comfortable with her
sexuality-- specifically when she's around YOU. 

   Your relentless positive reinforcement, your
consistent compliments, and constantly seeing
her sexuality in a positive way is ultimately
going to make HER see it in a positive way too. 
And she's going to trust that whatever she does,
you're not going to feel negatively about it. 

   Why is she going to trust that? 

   Because she will get to know from EXPERIENCE
that every time you've encountered something that
had to do with sex, you've been positive. 

   This is one of the biggest builders of sexual
trust. 

   Remember:  Your goal is to make her feel great
about sex and sexuality.  And this is especially
true if she already has a negative attitude about
it. 

   She will, in the end, accept YOUR belief
system. 

   If you absolutely believe beyond any shadow of
a doubt, that sex and sexuality, especially sex
and sexuality with HER is positive... 

   If you truly believe that your lovemaking is
SPECIAL and wonderful and passionate, if you
relentlessly believe that, no matter what she says
or does, eventually, you'll suck her into your
version of reality and she'll start to believe
the same thing.

   This has the power to change your life and to
save any relationship.


>>STEP 3:  SEXUAL CONFIDENCE

   The third and most important aspect of
building sexual trust in your relationship is
your own sexual confidence. 

   Your sexual confidence is the one thing that
contributes more than anything else to her feelings
of safety, well-being, and trust within your
sexual relationship. 

   The truth is, men who aren't confident do
a lot of very strange things to cover for their
insecurities... and these things really weird
women out. 

   Men who cheat, for example, most of the time
are not cheating because of their desire for
sexual variety, or because they are bored with
sex at home-- though those are real... and they
are very convenient issues for these men to point
to as their "excuse" for why they cheated. 

   But that is NOT why they cheated.  They cheat
because they are insecure.

   Most men cheat because deep down inside, they
feel like being with more women or proving that
they can be sexually attractive to some other woman
besides the woman they're with will make them more
of a man. 

   Well, guess what guys, it does not make you
more of a man, and men who cheat for this reason
never seem to figure that out because they just
keep going back for more. 

   Another issue with men who lack sexual
confidence is that to protect their own fragile
egos, they sometime blame the woman for their
failings.  For example, they get angry with HER
if they have "performance problems."

   Needless to say, women hate that crap.

   It's hard enough for her to feel good about
herself sexually, but it's virtually impossible
for her to feel good about sex for the both of
you.  It's just too  much work

   When you are insecure and constantly need her
to prop you up, it just takes too much energy. 
It's asking too much of her. 

   You need to let go of things like shame and
guilt and any negative or weird feelings you might
have surrounding your own sexuality.  You need to
accept yourself, and you need to believe that
you're a good person, that you're a sexual person,
that your sexuality is healthy, and most of all,
you need to begin to believe you really are good
in bed. 

   Of course, you might not be good in bed yet,
but by reading this newsletter, you're well on
your way to getting there. 

   More important than that, if you really feel
like you don't have absolute confidence that you
know what you're doing, that you can steer the ship
when you're making love to your woman... she's
going to FEEL that. 

   And she's not going to be able to sexually trust
you.  She's not going to feel safe and secure in
sexually surrendering herself to you so that she
can have the kind of mind-blowing orgasms that you
her to experience.

   What can you do about it? 

   Well, you need to gain that sexual confidence. 

   There's a couple of ways you can go about doing
it... 

   One is to spend a lot of time at it and learn
all the lessons that I've acquired over 15 years,
read a lot of books, and practice a lot, and
ultimately, I think you'll arrive at many of the
same conclusions that I did. 

   Second thing you might consider doing, especially
if you have a lot of shame-based issues around sex,
is to see a qualified mental health care
practitioner, like a psychologist or a psychiatrist. 

   Or, the third thing you can do, which is the one
that I strongly recommend, is buy my book. 
Because everything that I'm talking about is in
there, and everything you need to get sexual
confidence is in there. 

   Everything is in there to improve your
relationship, to improve your sexual skills, and
most importantly, to improve your sexual
communication so that your woman feels like she's
in good hands when she's in bed with you. 

   The dramatic effects this will have on you, on
her, on your relationship, on her ability to enjoy
sex, on your ability to enjoy sex, and most of all,
on her ability to have powerful orgasms when she's
in bed with you... you just can't imagine until
you've experienced them.

   That's why I've made it brain-dead simple for
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   I know that sounds kind of stupid, because, of
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just read it and then not pay. 

   Sure, I know.  But I've found that most guys
won't do that if I really, honest to God, help
them out. 

   That's why I trust YOU to be honest with me too.

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