This one is especially for my friends out
there who are single... and, of course, you guys
who are in relationships but need to use condoms
for various reasons.

    Most guys hate 'em.

    But the reality is, condoms are pretty
much the only birth control method that also
dramatically reduces your chances of getting
STDs... so if you are single, they are part of
your reality.

    Or they certainly ought to be...

    But the truth is, with VERY few
exceptions, we've all been guilty of being less
than careful once in a while.

    Well, let me be clear on the subject:

    There is no good excuse for it.

    Unless you've both been tested, recently
(and better would be twice a few weeks apart),
AND you are using some other reliable form of
birth control, you should be using condoms.

    I know, I know, they are a pain in the
ass for so many reasons... but I've got some
great tips that will make you feel a lot better
about it.

    Don't think for a moment that I don't
feel your pain...

    She's a bit shy but you can feel the
sparks and attraction happening.

    You know she's been holding out on
sex with you for a while because she likes you
so much.  She wants you to think that she's a
"nice" girl... but also, when the attraction
feels this good, it makes her nervous, and she's
afraid of messing it up.

    So when you are finally there, kissing
on the couch or in your bedroom, and she's half
undressed, and pretty soon things are heating up
way faster than either of you expected...

    And you know that right now is the right
moment... the PERFECT moment!

    And NO, the perfect moment will NOT be 2
minutes from now when you stop kissing her, get
the condom out of the drawer, figure out how to
get the damn thing open before your erection
goes away...

    And meanwhile, that perfect romantic
bubble is popped and she's cooling down and having
second thoughts... and you're getting less hard
by the second just thinking about the dilemma...

    And if all goes well and you manage to
get the thing on, she's still hot for you, you're
still ready...

    You still don't get the same kind of
pleasure that you'd get from bare skin.

    I know.

    Call it an excellent argument for
monogamy.

    But don't get caught in that little-boy,
irresponsible mentality.  A man takes precautions
to protect himself and the woman that he is with.

    Even if she tells you not to.  In fact,
especially if tells you not to.

    The truth is, if you are single and
sexually active, you will run into a certain
percentage of women who, when they get emotional
and sexually turned on, also get... stupid.

    Just remember this:

    If she's telling you it's okay not to use
a condom, it's very likely not the first time she
has made that statement.

    In case I haven't convinced you yet, go
check out some websites on herpes, gonorrhea, or
syphilis, preferably ones with lots of pictures,
and then get back to this newsletter!

    It ain't pretty.

    So now we're all on the same page. 

    Condoms are a necessary evil, so pay
attention to these tips that will make your sex
life with condoms much more enjoyable.


>>> Figure Out How To Use Them Safely

    I know, but I have to say it...

    Read the directions on the box and make
sure you're using them right.  There are some
good tips on there and if you are going to break
any of those rules on the box, at least know
exactly what rules you are breaking...

    And what risks you're taking.

    One important point that I'd add, that
I've never seen written on the box is this:

    Condoms sometimes break.  Make sure that
before you come, you pull out a bit and see that
it is still whole before you make your sprint for
home plate.

    Pregnancies can happen that way if you
are not careful.

    And remember to obey that bit of advice
on the box about pulling out very soon after you
come and disposing of the condom... If you go soft
while still inside of her, it can leak.


>>> Figure Out How To Put It On Smoothly

    Look, you can use condoms a hundred
times and still not figure this out if every
time you use it, you are in the middle of heated
passion.

    They are not that expensive... take a
few of them and practice when you're not with
a woman.

    I know it sounds stupid, but it's a very
worthwhile thing to figure out a quick and easy
way to get it on with one hand and without looking.

    If that sounds impossible to you, remember
that Special Forces soldiers can take apart and
put back together a rifle with like a zillion
parts, in 3 seconds, in the dark, with other guys
trying to shoot them.

    So you should be able to get a condom
onto your rifle, in the dark, in just a few
seconds, with a girl in your arms.

    I turn my head and use my teeth for a
quick opening... but I gotta warn you that the
box says this can lead to accidentally ripping
the condom, so if you use this trick, use it
CAREFULLY.

    I have a friend who does it with both
hands, but behind his back while still kissing the
girl. 

    He claims it works.

    Anyway, fast is nowhere near as important
as smooth.

    Just try to keep a bit engaged with the
girl while you do it.

    Another obvious one, especially if you
are already in a relationship, is to hand it
to HER with a knowing smile.

    Let her then do the work of opening and
unrolling.

    It can be fun for the both of you,
because if you do it right, you can make it feel
a bit sexually "dominant."

>>>  Make It Feel More Natural

    Wearing a condom does not have to feel
like having sex with a plastic bag.

    The first thing you should get yourself
aware of (if you are not already), is how very
different the different brands of condoms feel.

    Find one that fits right, is made of
the right material, and has the right balance
of texture and lubrication for you.

    This is very much a matter of personal
taste personal choice-- but I was amazed when
I started to really experiment with it, how
very different condoms are from each other.

    I also recommend you try out some of
the new polyurethane condoms-- there are a few
brands of them, and some guys really like the
way they feel.  But either way, I like to keep
some on hand because some women have allergies
to latex.

    One of the tips right on the box of most
condom brands is almost always ignored by the
guys who use them-- and it really works!

    The advice is to put a small amount of
water-soluble lubricant on on the tip of your
little champ before putting on your condom.

    (note: it's important that you use
water-soluble lubricant and not petroleum-
based lube, because the latter can break down
the integrity of the condom)

    This really improves the sensation
dramatically...

    The problem is, who wants to take the
trouble and time to take out the bottle of lube
as well as the condom?  It's just one more step
between you and remaining "in the zone."

    My solution:

    I use a brand of lubricated condom, so
when I open the condom, I swab out the inside of
the wrapper with my finger-- and use that.  There's
usually just enough extra lube inside there to do
the job.

    Nice!

>>> Change Your Attitude

    There is so much trash-talking of condoms
that the idea that condoms suck can get in your
head even if they actually don't bother you
that much.

    I suggest you try to reframe the issue
in your mind.

    Look at it this way, because condoms
cut down a bit on the stimulation, usually
when you use a condom you can last longer...

    Now that's an advantage, right?

    And let's face it, there's way less of
a mess to clean up afterwards... nobody has to
sleep in the wet spot.

    And it's definitely nicer if you want to
go down on her a little later in the evening.

    So look on the bright side.  There are
lots of advantages to using condoms every time.
   
    As my grandmother used to say:

    "Be good... And if you can't be good...
be careful."

    If your problem with condoms is more
serious than that-- for example, I know that
many men have a real problem with losing
their erection before they can get the condom
on... which then prevents them from getting laid
at all!

    If  you've got that kind of issue, it
can be especially tempting to go without.

    Don't do it.

    This is not a problem that you will
solve by ruining your life from exposing yourself
to a disease or by getting a girl pregnant by
accident...

    It's a problem that you will solve by
LEARNING your way out of it.

    You just need more information.

    There are so many aspects of sexual
confidence, self control, and learning to stay
"present" in the intimacy zone with a woman that
I discuss in my book...

    And if you learn any ONE of them properly
this will no longer be an issue for you.

    Better yet... Learn ALL of them.

    Download your copy of my online
eBook right now, I guarantee you won't ever have
THAT problem again...

    If you don't agree that the information
inside is so powerful that it completely changes
the way you look at your sex life, then just
don't pay.

    I've designed it so that you can
download, see, and read the material first...
BEFORE you pay, so that you can be sure that
it's right for you.

    I'm not interested in taking your money
if you don't agree that I completely deliver on
my promises.

    Take me up on it.  You won't believe the
effect that you are about to have on the woman
in your life!

    www.revolutionarysex.com

    Your friend,

    Alex Allman