Get More Oral Sex From Your Girl


***QUESTION FROM A READER***

Hey Alex,

My girlfriend and I have been dating for almost 2
years now. The first time she performed oral sex on
me was about a year ago. She never took it upon
herself to go down on me, and I was always way too
shy to ask.

Anyways, one day she just started doing it, but I
had a very hard time having an orgasm. So I have
2 questions for you:

1) What can I do to ensure that I have an orgasm
when she goes down on me? I've never had oral sex
performed on me until her, so I'm still new to it,
and I don't want her to feel like she's no good.

2) How do I go about making her feel more inclined
to go down on her own? I don't want to have to
ask, because it makes me feel demanding in a way,
and I don't want to feel like she's only doing it
to please me. I guess I want her to enjoy doing
it.

Any help you can offer would be greatly
appreciated!

         Thanks!
         A.


>>>MY REPLY:

   I really liked this question because there are
so many important aspects of sexual mastery that
it brings up, and because I think it represents
the thinking of so many guys...

   Especially the part about feeling "demanding"
if you ask her for something that you want her to
do for you during sex.

   This is the root of some really big problems
that men have-- not just in getting their own
sexual needs met... but even more so... in
disappointing the woman in their life.

   It's obvious, if you talk to the men out there,
that most guys WANT to please their wife or
girlfriend in the bedroom... most guys want to be
considered "good in bed."

   And certainly, if you're reading this, it's a
subject that interests YOU specifically.

   But there is a really surprising result to this
desire that I think most men NEVER realize...

   Sometimes it is the desire to be good in bed
that actually CAUSES them to be very average, or
even BELOW AVERAGE in terms of what WOMEN REALLY
WANT in sexual partner.

   In other words, wanting to be good in bed can
make you BAD in bed.

   Look, you're a man... and so you are attracted
to women.  You are attracted to those qualities
that define them as women...

   Obviously some of the things that make them
women are completely physical-- breasts, vagina...

   But some are less obvious.  Things like long
hair are physical, but clearly there are many very
beautiful and sexy women with short hair... still
MOST guys prefer long hair because we associate
it with FEMININITY.

   Likewise, there are beautiful and sexy women
with loud voices, calloused hands, and very
masculine mannerisms.

   But, in general, we prefer women who have very
feminine mannerisms.  We prefer women with pretty
smiles and soft voices and soft skin with feminine
qualities.  We like women who walk and move in a
feminine way.

   Ever see a man sit down in the passenger seat
of a car and curl his legs up underneath him?

   No?

   Me neither.  But women do it all the time, and
I find it very sexy... because it is something
that I have associated in my brain with being
feminine.

   Well, guess what?

   Women are attracted to masculinity in exactly
the same way.

   And in a funny (or maybe even cruel) disconnect,
the desire to be good in bed, can, for some men,
really take away from their masculine image in
the eyes of the woman they are in bed with.

   To make this clear:  A man who is tentative or
shy about what HE wants in the bedroom is like
a woman who walks like John Wayne, has the hair style
of John McEnroe, and burps like Johnny Knoxville
while she orders a pint of Sam Adams.

   For some guys, I just described the perfect
woman... and for some women, a guy who is really
shy and tentative is the perfect man...

   But if you want to play the odds on these
things... I think you see where I'm going.

    Okay, I want you to keep this point in your
mind, and I'm going to answer some of the
questions in this email so that you can see how
this principle applies in the real world...

   And also answer the question of how you can
get a lot more oral sex (or anything else that
turns YOU on) into your love life...

   While AT THE SAME TIME, giving HER the best
sexual experience she's ever had.

   In question 1 my friend asks how he can have
an orgasm when she goes down on him so that she
doesn't feel like she's not good at it.

   I really like the place in your heart that this
is coming from, man.  This shows that you really
care about her and that you really understand
how easily women can get insecure about their
own sexuality.

   Women's own insecurities are so often left
out of these discussions because we're always
dealing with our own issues-- but it is THEIR
insecurities that, more of than not, are preventing
them from having far more intense sexual pleasure.
More on that topic, and how to completely explode
her concept of how powerful her orgasms can become,
go check out the info here:


   Now, some men find it EASIER to come from oral
sex... and some men find it much HARDER to come
from oral sex, and there's no "good or bad" about
this issue.

   And the ONLY important way to make your girl
feel good about her skills in that department is
to just tell her that she's great and that you
love it.

   Just take control of the situation and take
control of her emotional state by confidently
assuring her of the fact that everything is great.

   Your confidence and your certainty about the
situation is all she needs.  Is she going to call
you a liar? 

   Of course not. 

   If you tell her it's great with confidence and
certainty, she will feel good about the situation.

   If she asks why you didn't ejaculate, you can
just tell her the truth-- it's easier for you to
come during regular sex... but that doesn't mean
you don't still love it when she goes down on you.

   And to be perfectly clear:

   I am only advocating that you tell the truth.
If, in fact, her oral skills are not everything
you want them to be, then gently, and lovingly
tell her what else you'd like her to do.  She will
APPRECIATE it. 

   Then give her praise for her improvement.  If
she cares about you, she'll be very relieved to
have you tell her EXACTLY how you want to be
touched.

   Another way to show her how much you appreciate
her oral skills, is just to ALLOW YOURSELF to
make the sounds that people make when they are in
ecstasy.  That's the applause for the performance.

   You know how much you appreciate it when she
makes those sounds when you do something that
feels good to her?

   Well, she likes it just as much as you do.

   One of the reasons that you might be having
trouble coming in her mouth is that you are so
busy worrying about all of these other issues.

   Just let it go, man.  Enjoy it.  Maybe you'll
come, maybe you won't.

   Most women (obviously not all) LOVE to give
head.  And they love it when you appreciate it
and tell them so (or make some noises that
indicate that she's doing it right).

   But a lot of those women who love giving oral
sex actually don't much appreciate it when you
ejaculate while they are going down on you...

   Some of them don't like the mess or the taste...

   But most of all, if you ejaculate in her mouth,
then the love-making is over.  And that can be
kind of a drag if she was thinking that it was
just part of foreplay.

   Going down on you probably gets her really
turned on... she doesn't always want it to END
there.

   What all of this adds up to is-- reassure her
that you like it, and don't stress about the rest.

   The second question was how to get her to do
it more often...

   And I think I've already made it clear that
all you have to do is tell her that you want her
to do it.

   But the most important aspect of this answer is
that you must BELIEVE that asking for what you
want is NOT demanding... It's totally okay.

   And that not asking for what you want is just
un-masculine.

   Here's the slightly complicated part...

   If you do ask her, but in your heart you still
think it's kind of demanding that she might not
like you being demanding, she will FEEL that you
are tentative... she will feel a LACK OF
MASCULINITY in you...

   And if her girlfriend was to ask her later, she
might say, "I really didn't like it when he asked
me to do that."

   And the reason she didn't like it is that she
associated you asking with you being unattractive
sexually.

   If, on the other hand, you confidently tell
her exactly what you want her to do, she will
probably find that EXTREMELY ATTRACTIVE.

   If she was talking to her girlfriend later,
she'd tell her what a turn-on it was when you
told her to go down on you.

   Just like that.

   Sounds like there is a paradox there, but
there isn't.

   Confidence is sexy.  Tentative is not.

   Now, for you, this can either be good news or
bad news based on what you do next.

   If you can't free yourself from the notion that
it is demanding to ask for what you want sexually,
and if you can't learn to believe that she
probably LOVES to give you oral sex (which is why
she did it in the first place), then this is
entirely bad news for you and for your sexual
relationship with this girl.

   If, on the other hand, you believe that she
loves it, and you understand that it's not only
totally okay, but sexually ATTRACTIVE to ask
confidently for what you want, then this is
overwhelmingly GREAT NEWS.

   Because not only will you get head whenever
you want it, but you will be sexier in her eyes,
and she will be feeling like you've gotten much
better in bed (without even knowing why she feels
that way).

   BOTH of you will be enjoying your sex life
more... and THAT, my friends, is what this
Newsletter is all about.

   I know that some men are more shy than
others when it comes to asking for what they
want... but if you believe that being born shy
dictates your sexual destiny, you are WRONG.

   You CAN LEARN to be more confident and
assertive in the bedroom.  And it is well worth
the effort to get this handled.

   Want to know how to make it even BETTER for
her?

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