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What Annoys Women AND What Gives Them Orgasms
One of the truly weird things that I've been
learning as I've been counseling men on how to
improve their sexual relationships is how many
love making techniques men use that they THINK women LIKE...
But actually just annoy the heck out of them.
In fact, many of the articles and books that
are out there telling men "love making techniques to drive her crazy
in the bedroom", actually RECOMMEND some of the
things that women find most irritating when men
do them.
Unbelievable.
I don't know how men EVER do things right because
I have discovered that WOMEN also frequently say
the same things... they give men sex tips that,
if a man did it to them... they'd be annoyed by it!
Why?
This is a really hard question, and I've been
thinking about it for a while, and I've come with
3 possible answers...
1. Women are, themselves, completely unaware
of what love making techniques turn them on until a skilled lover
actually DOES it to them.
2. Women are embarrassed by the truth of
what love making techniques turn them on, thinking "I'm the only freak,
I better not tell the truth"
3. Women are reading the same magazine
articles and figure it must be good advice or it
wouldn't be in an article... even if they feel
like it wouldn't really work on them.
And to some extent, I think all 3 of these
things are probably true.
So let's get into it--
What love making techniques do men use in bed that they THINK is going
to lead to orgasm, but that most women actually
find kind of annoying...
>>>ANNOYING LOVE MAKING TECHNIQUE #1:
Trying Too Hard To Please Her
All you hear in women's magazines is about how
men are selfish lovers, or men don't pay enough
attention to a woman's orgasm, or men should ask
their woman what they want him to do...
Turns out that most women find that when guys
try that hard to please them that it's... annoying.
"Is this okay?"
"Do you like it when I do this?"
"Is that too hard?"
"What do you want me to do next?"
"What works for you?"
"Did you come yet?"
The problem with this behavior-- this overly
sensitive try-hard attitude-- is that it is, in
the end, sort of weak and feminine.
Women find it annoying when you are so concerned
with their happiness and finding just the right love making techniques that you seem to be too
insecure to just let yourself experience the love
making with them.
When a man is so focused on figuring out what
SHE wants, it feels like he's tentative and weak
to her... So even if she does tell you what she
likes, and even if a love making technique does FEEL good... it may
make her feel less ATTRACTION.
And when you kill her attraction like that,
it is very, very annoying.
Women want a man to LEAD. And they want him to
know what HE likes. They want a man who is wild,
untamed, and masculine.
What do YOU as a MAN really like to do to your
woman in the bedroom? What unleashes YOUR passion
for her body? What excites and thrills YOU?
Turns out, there's an excellent chance she's
going to like that too.
And even if she doesn't, because you are so free
and open with your desires, it will encourage her
to tell you, without being asked, EXACTLY what
love making techniques work for her too.
But more importantly, when she feels that you
are doing the things that turn YOU on, when she
feels the POWER of your lust and passion...
THAT is the biggest turn on for her-- your
masculine passion directed at HER body.
And that is one of the most powerful love making techniques to
unlock the little gates in her head that sometimes
hold her back... and give her a massive, screaming
orgasm.
>>>ANNOYING LOVE MAKING TECHNIQUE #2
Using A "Canned Love Making Technique" You Read About
Of course, at some point, you have to be able
to learn something new and use it, or you'll
always be doing the same old thing over and over
again-- and I've learned plenty of "love making techniques"
to use in bed from books and articles that
were great.
Here's where the problem comes in--
Too many guys read about some love making technique that's
"guaranteed to drive her crazy", and they sit
down and memorize the move... stick this there and
do this other thing like that...
And the forget all about 2 critical factors...
The first is that ALL WOMEN ARE DIFFERENT.
Just because a love making technique worked for the woman who wrote
the article when her boyfriend did it, does not
mean it will be good for your woman as well.
Think about it-- there are men who prefer a
blowjob to intercourse any day of the week... and
there are many men who don't like them AT ALL.
People are just different and that's the
reality of it.
So trying to force a love making technique to work that your
woman isn't getting off on is... annoying.
The other problem is that if you go about doing
this love making technique in some dogmatic way, hoping
that it's going to have a certain effect on her...
Then you are making the same mistake as "Annoying
Behavior #1"...
You're just trying too hard.
If, on the other hand, you read about some
love making techniques that are supposed to be good for
HER, but as you're reading it you think, "Damn!
That sounds HOT!" and you find that thinking about
doing these love making techniques turns YOU on...
Then absolutely GO FOR IT.
Because then you are doing it for YOU... and
at least one of you will enjoy it (you).
PLUS, She'll FEEL that authenticity in your touch,
and so, even if it doesn't "work" on her, she'll
dig it anyway.
If it DOES work on her too, then you've found a
great new love making technique to add to your lives.
But here's my main point-- rather than putting
too much effort into a "canned love making technique" that
someone else is trying to sell you on, try this:
PAY ATTENTION.
Pay attention to what her body is telling you.
Tune in to how she is feeling, how she is
breathing, the sounds she is making, the way her
hips rise to meet you when something feels sexy...
Sure, try the love making techniques you read about if you like, but
instead of paying attention to doing it "right",
pay attention to what she is FEELING.
If you do that, her body will guide you to all
the right love making techniques, and you will modify whatever
you are doing to reach a harmony between your
desire, and her pleasure.
And then, instead of feeling annoyed that you're
trying to make something work on her that worked
on "some other girl," she'll feel the incredible
connection that comes from knowing that you are
"in tune" with her.
And THAT will lead her to a powerful orgasm.
>>>ANNOYING LOVE MAKING TECHNIQUE #3
Sprinting For The Finish Line
Men are just brought up this way. When we
feel like we're close to completing the job, we
give it that last bit of "go" to cross the finish
line with a powerful burst of energy.
We do that in everything from sports to a
project for work-- that last big push at the end.
So when you feel like she's close, or when she
actually SAYS she's close ("I'm almost there!"),
there's this powerful urge to push it a bit
harder, a bit faster... and sprint across the
finish line.
Which, unfortunately, changes the rhythm and
the intensity THAT WAS WORKING... and prevents
her from having an orgasm...
Which is...
Very, VERY annoying.
Instead, when you find the intensity and
rhythm that's working, and she's moaning and she's
getting closer and closer...
Just keep doing EXACTLY what you are doing.
I know this can be hard-- it can be physically
difficult to maintain the rhythm and angle if
she starts thrashing around like an eel on a
fish hook...
But if you do, if you can maintain that rhythm
just a little bit longer, she will have a deep
and satisfying orgasm.
The last time I shared this last love making technique I had
dozens of emails from couples thanking me...
Some of them had been messing this one up for
YEARS without realizing what they were doing
wrong, and with this incredibly simple distinction,
their entire sex-life had suddenly become much
easier and more pleasurable because she could
come so much more easily and frequently.
In other words-- you should definitely try
this love making technique out.
And guess what?
There's a whole lot of other behaviors that
men do, thinking women really like it... but that
actually just annoys them.
And there's a even more stuff-- love making techniques,
exercises, mental attitudes, and ideas-- that
you NEED to learn to give her the most mind-
bending, sheet-burning, and, yes, even spiritually
transforming orgasmic experiences she's ever had.
Which is why I've put everything together for
you in a nice little package that I call
"Revolutionary Sex".
Find out more about it right here:
LOVE MAKING TECHNIQUES AND SEX TIPS THAT WORK!
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