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The Key To Mastering Foreplay
Pop Quiz:
What do women REALLY want...?
A man who knows exactly what he wants without
hesitation... a guy that steps through the door,
looks her deeply in the eyes, kisses her, rips
her clothing off, and throws her down and makes
passionate love to her right there on the floor...
or...
A man who really understands how to speak the
sensitive language of sensuality... who lights
candles and sets the mood before taking his
time undressing her and teasing every square inch
of her body with his tongue for HOURS while she
shakes with anticipation...
If you said answered either one of these, you're
half right...
If you said neither one, you're half right too...
If you said both, you're also half right.
The only correct completely correct answer is,
"it depends on her mood."
And the good news is... her mood is something
that you CAN do something about.
So many people misunderstand foreplay... what it
is, what it isn't, what most people think it is, and
what it SHOULD be.
If a woman is the wrong mood, then here is
how she will feel about either of those guys
above...
The guy is ham-handed, insensitive, completely
driven by his own pig-animal desires without care
for her needs... a typical man who has no idea
what women REALLY want.
or...
The guy is frustratingly feminine, completely
deluded by his own sickly-sweet sense of what
romance is supposed to be, and so tentative and
insecure that he spends all his time eagerly
trying to kiss her ass instead of being a MAN...
a typical wuss who has no idea what women REALLY
want.
Worse still, that is the humiliating story
that she is going to tell her friends the next
morning, frustrated that once again, she's been
sexually disappointed.
Yet, that SAME woman, might also think that
either of these guys delivered the best sexual
experience of her life...
IF... she was in the right emotional state.
So where does foreplay fit into all of this?
Obviously in one case the guy is giving her no
foreplay at all... and in the second case, he is
giving her HOURS of it...
So why is it that the same woman might think of
either of them as great in bed, or losers?
Does this mean that foreplay is actually not
important?
Well, I guess it really will depend on how you
define it, and that's what I was talking about
above when I said that most people misunderstand
the word.
See, most people (and note that I did not say
"most men" since women are usually just as
clueless on this one) think that foreplay is the
extra time a man has to spend to get a woman
"turned on".
The classic story you always here from "experts"
is that men get turned on easily... like, as soon
as there is an attractive, naked female in the
room...
Whereas women take longer to warm up and be
"ready" for sex... so men need to slow down and
spend time kissing them, stroking their breasts,
and generally getting them "sexually receptive."
This is really just a polite way of saying
that men get "hard" (ready for sex) quickly, but
that women get "wet" (ready for sex) much more
slowly.
Turns out... that is complete crap.
Under this typical definition, foreplay is all
about "getting her turned on."
Now look, there is NOTHING wrong with taking
your time... and there is NOTHING wrong with
getting her good and turned on...
But that is NOT what good foreplay is about,
and the sooner you understand that fact, the
sooner you will stop frustrating women, and start
giving them the most amazing sexual experiences
that they have ever imagined.
The fact is, if a woman is in the right mood,
she can get turned on just as fast, or faster,
than a 16 year old boy. A woman who is in the
right mood will become soaking wet between her
legs if you just breath on the back of her neck
for 15 seconds.
And that is why I'd like you to re-write the
definition of foreplay in your brain...
Stop thinking about it as "getting her
turned on"...
And start thinking of foreplay as "getting her
in the right emotional state."
Foreplay is not a PHYSICAL activity, it is an
EMOTIONAL activity.
Once she is emotionally in the mood for sex,
getting her turned on is no problem.
Just getting this one little idea into your
head is going to completely turbo-charge your sex
life.
Okay... I know what the next question is going
to be, and because I like you, I'm not going to
leave you hanging...
Yes. I am going to tell you HOW to "get her
into the right emotional state."
The simple fact is, the way to get a woman
into a sexy emotional state... the state where
she is in the mood for sex RIGHT NOW... whether
it's slow and teasing sex or passionate "throw-
down" sex can be very simple, or very difficult
depending on where you are starting from.
In other words, if she has just finished
reading a romance novel or taking a nice sensual
bath, it probably won't take more than a gentle
hand stroking her hair...
If she is sitting at her computer doing her
tax returns, or you two were just bickering about
whose turn it is to do the dishes... well... that
may take a bit more work.
There are many ways to get her "in the mood,"
from holding eye contact in a meaningful and
dominant way, to a soft, boyish grin that she
can't resist.
Yes, it really CAN sometimes be that simple.
But let's look at a 5 things that work a bit
more reliably:
>>1. GETTING HER TURNED ON
Yep, I know this one is going to make you laugh,
but I'd be lying if I didn't say that sometimes
this whole thing can work BACKWARDS...
Which is to say, it is possible to get her in
the emotional state for sex by getting her
physically turned on first.
This works best when she is already in a mood
that is not too far from a sexual mood...
For example, if she is feeling very sensually
relaxed from a nice massage... it would be very
easy to put her into a sexual emotional state
by just moving your hands from her shoulders to
her breasts or between her legs, and starting to
get her physically aroused...
If you are being silly and playful and laughing
together, the same thing applies...
It is a short road from playful and having
fun together to being sexual.
Just getting her physically turned on will
probably be enough to switch her emotions.
>> 2. MAKE HER FEEL SEXY
When a woman feels like she is sexy-- meaning
she feels attractive as a sexual being, it puts
her into the right mood for sex.
You put her into this mood by making her feel
appreciated and giving her positive reinforcement
for what she is doing that you think is sexy...
When she feels her sexual power in that way,
and begins to swim in that emotion, she will be
in sexual emotional state.
So what does all that mean?
Well, first of all, if you point out a pimple
on her face, do not expect to get laid.
But noticing her legs, or commenting on the
sexy and graceful way that she walks... If you
can deliver a compliment like that from a very
sincere and authentic place in your heart and
your voice...
She will begin to swim in that emotion.
You will know immediately that you have done
it right because she will begin to repeat whatever
you complimented her on.
In the example above, she'll do some more
sexy walking for you. Don't laugh or turn it
playful. Let her know it turns you on.
Likewise, if you tell her that the way her hair
falls across her face is sexy and she starts
playing with her hair, or she tosses her head to
make it fall over her face...
She may giggle... still not quite sure of
herself... still not sure if she she is sexy or
silly...
And if you validate her sexiness by softly
saying, "yes. Like that. It drives me crazy,"
then you will make her FEEL very sexy.
When she feels sexy it is very different from
feeling turned on... and it is MUCH more powerful.
Turned on is a quick and simple thing. It is
physical. But the mood of FEELING sexy is an
EMOTION... and an extremely powerful one.
And THAT is great foreplay.
>>3. TOUCH AND TALK
Changing a woman's mood can happen through
either your words or in the way you touch her.
Generally using your words is a good place to
start and learning how to become comfortable
whispering sweet things in her ear is a powerful
skill.
By the way, I know that a lot of guys are very
uncomfortable with the whole "sweet whispering"
subject, and that is not the focus of this
Newsletter-- but if you want more specific
techniques for exactly how to use your words to
get a woman turned on, there is an entire chapter
in my online eBook devoted to the subject. You
can get that info here:
http://www.revolutionarysex.com
Your voice tone will play just as important a
part as the things you say when you are trying to
change her mood.
Speaking softly, but with confident authority
does powerful things to a woman's mood.
Touching her works the same way.
I am not talking about sexual touching... just
putting your hands on her, stroking her hair,
holding her in your arms.
And just like with the voice, touch her
gently, but with confident authority.
Your INTENT counts for a LOT in this. Women
are incredibly intuitive-- they are much more
tuned in to the subtle, instinctive, animal
communications of the body than men are.
When you touch her to "turn her on" she can
feel that... and if it is not yet appropriate to
her mood, it will have the opposite effect. She
will recoil.
But when you touch her to make her feel sexy,
to change her mood when she is stressed or tired
into a mood that is more emotionally intimate...
a mood where she will be ready to be turned on,
she will respond very powerfully to it.
This kind of touching is foreplay-- the kind
designed to provoke an emotional change in her
head and in her heart, not a physical change in
her body.
I know that for a lot of guys, this sounds
like some kind of new-age voodoo.
It is not.
I challenge you to try it with your girl:
Touch her with the genuine and authentic
intention of softening her mood and making her
feel emotionally ready for love-making.
Not sexually, just with the intention of
making her feel the emotions, of making her feel
like she is sexy and attractive to you...
And just see what happens next.
Not everything works for every person. If you
don't think this one is for you, then don't use
it.
But MOST men will find that it is pure
dynamite in their relationship.
If you don't at least TRY it out for yourself,
then you can't judge it.
>>4. SHOWING MASCULINE STRENGTH/PROTECTIVENESS
Women's emotions are affected by your presence,
by the way you take up space, by the way you move
through the world beside her.
Showing masculine strength-- either physically
or verbally-- will put her into a sexual mood.
Showing your masculine strength physically is
usually about man-handling her a bit--
Pick her up and carry her up the stairs to bed,
or grab her under the arms, pick her up and put
her on the counter and kiss her...
These simple gestures are much more powerful
than trying to get her turned on by just starting
to make out with her.
She will giggle and be in the MOOD to be
seduced, and then getting her turned on will be
a breeze.
It does not have to be physical strength.
Showing her that you are decisive or in-control
of a situation or being very dominant among other men
is also very powerful.
Being protective and making her feel SAFE is
another great way to do this.
Here's a great example that I heard just a few
weeks ago at a party...
A good friend of mine is dating an
exceptionally beautiful woman. At the party she
was talking to me and telling me a story about one
of their first dates.
They were walking to their car after a movie
and there were a few drunk, homeless guys standing
in the alley that they had to cross through to get
to the car.
She felt nervous and intimidated by them. He
noticed that she was feeling uncomfortable and he
pulled her close and he said to her in a firm and
confident voice:
"Don't worry. Nothing's going to happen to
you while you are with me."
The truth is, my friend is neither a big guy,
nor a fighter in any way. But his masculine
confidence and reassurance was enough for her.
She blushed just from remembering the moment
while telling the story, and then she looked up
with a sparkle in her eye and she said:
"I knew right then that he was getting laid
that night."
>>5. "ALL DAY FOREPLAY"
I talk a lot about the idea of "all day
foreplay."
The story above about my friend is a great
example of this idea.
You should definitely NOT limit your idea of
foreplay to the bedroom just before sex. If you
do, then yes, maybe you have to spend an hour
getting her in the mood the way those "experts"
talk about it.
But that is definitely the hard way of doing
things.
All of the techniques that I talked about
above can be used all day long to make her feel
sexy, to make her feel turned on, to make her
feel that you are masculine and strong and
protective.
Do not expect, if you make her feel ugly,
undesirable, or unloved at breakfast, that you
are going to have great sex after dinner.
On the other hand, if you tell her that her
hair is sexy over breakfast, and you call her
during work to tell her in a soft and confident
voice that you are thinking about how you can't
wait to gently run your fingers over her breasts
later tonight...
Then you might not be able to wait until
dinner is over before she attacks you.
When you give her these little bits of foreplay
throughout the day, you keep her on a slow simmer...
And then, when you are ready, it will be your
choice as to whether you want to spend an hour
touching and teasing and licking every square
inch of her body... or just tearing her clothing
off and making love to her right there on the
floor.
Either way, she will brag to her friends that
you are the best lover that she's ever experienced.
Well...
Maybe.
At least the foreplay part will be great. I
don't know whether or not you've got the rest of
it figured out yet.
But once you understand these simple foreplay
ideas... once you're doing "foreplay all day,"
then it will not be hard to learn the other
simple techniques to give her multiple orgasms
(even if she's never had one before)...
And from there you can learn how to give her
"stacked orgasms" or even prolong her orgasms
so that they last so long that you can literally
make her pass out from pleasure.
This is the kind of love-making that can
create incredibly powerful emotional bonds for
couples, and make it so much better for BOTH of
you that you will never think about your sexual
relationship the same way again.
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Your friend,
Alex
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