What's the difference between a "good
girl" and a "bad girl."

    This is a topic that really interests me,
because I've been looking at both sides of it for
a long time now, and I've discussed it with a lot
of men and a lot of women, and I'm amazed at the
different opinions that I get and how strongly
some people feel about this issue.

    I'll give away my conclusion right up
front, and tell you that I don't think that there
is any difference at all in most cases... and I'll
explain to you why I believe that's true...

    And I'll also share with you why and how
some women-- even very shy and sexually reserved
women-- can change IN AN INSTANT to passionate,
sex-obsessed, wild girls...

    And finally, I'll also share some of the
secret keys that will allow you to actually
cause that change to happen.

    There are so many stories I could tell to
illustrate the many issues surrounding this
question, but let me start with one that is
familiar to almost every guy I know.

    Once upon a time there was a boy who was
very much in love (or at least he told himself
that he was in love) with a beautiful and angelic
"good girl" who he had known for a long time.

    Because she was a "good girl," the boy
knew that he had to take it slow with her-- win
her over as a friend first, before trying anything
sexual and scaring her away. 

    So for the next few months he did many
nice and thoughtful things for her, they shared
many nice dinners and movies (he paid most of the
time), and they developed a very sweet friendship.

    True to her "good girl" nature, during
these months, when she dated other guys, she
always told him afterwards that the guys were
losers, and she never got sexual with any of
them, or even had a second date...

    But also, the boy wasn't getting anywhere
with her sexually either.

    When he made efforts in that direction,
she told him that she had been brought up to think
of sex as sacred... a big deal... something not
to be shared lightly.

    And since this is the story of a very
typical situation, maybe instead she confided in
him at some point that her first boyfriend or
last boyfriend or whoever, either abused her or
cheated on her or something... and now she is
uncomfortable with sex and is just taking time off
from that whole part of life.

    But the boy knows, he KNOWS that if he
just holds out long enough, that he'll win her
over in the end-- because that's what happens in
the movies.

    What he doesn't know is that EVERYTHING
he is doing, is exactly the wrong thing to do
to build sexual chemistry with a woman.

    Then one day the unthinkable happens...

    While they are out together, some guy
comes over and starts talking to them... and the
good girl starts really FLIRTING with this guy!...
right in front of the boy.

    At first he can hardly believe what's
happening-- why does she like this jerk?

    Maybe at some point she goes to the
bathroom and the jerk says to the boy, "your
friend has a really hot ass."

    The boy is really angry now, and when the
good girl comes back he tells her what the jerk
just said... and she seems... kind of PLEASED.

    WHAT?

    She's a GOOD girl.  She doesn't like guys
that think of her sexually!

    Then maybe the guy starts buying her shots
of liquor.  It is so stupidly obvious that this guy
trying to get her drunk...

    And he tells the good girl that too...    

    And she looks at him like she has no idea
what the boy is talking about-- even starts
getting angry with the boy.

    And finally, when the jerk guy says to her
that they should go somewhere else or that he'll
drive her home, she starts actively trying to GET
RID OF the boy!

    Angry, hurt, demoralized, and depressed,
the boy finally leaves, an emptiness in his
stomach and heart that he'll never be able to
fully explain to another living soul.

    She refused his protection-- and this other
guy so obviously had only ONE thing on his mind.

    And that emptiness the boy feels becomes a
long lasting, confused depression when he eventually
finds out that the "good girl" got laid by that guy...
that very night.

    How could this have happened?

    Was the good girl really... all along...
a BAD girl?


    I could have told this story a hundred
different ways-- maybe it's a girl that you were
dating for a long time but she was holding out in the
sex department...

    Or you were having sex, but she wouldn't
do anything even slightly adventurous... maybe
didn't like it if the lights were on... or she
wouldn't allow any oral sex... or she would be
silent through the entire thing and never have
any orgasms...

    And then one day after you split up you
find out that she's become this wild sex-kitten
with her new boyfriend... or with many new
boyfriends...

    The point is... these stories are
probably making you cringe because they are
reminding you of something very, very real and
almost EVERY guy has been in that situation at
one time or another.

    Some guys react very badly to this kind
of thing and they never really learn to trust
another woman for the rest of their lives.

    They say things like, "all women are
secretly whores."

    Or they end up feeling like any woman
who DOES sleep with them, or who is sexually
adventurous is somehow morally inferior, or a
"bad girl."

    And many, if not most guys split women
into two groups-- "good girls" (relationship
material) and "bad girls" (or party girls, or
sluts).

    In psychology they call this the "Whore/
Madonna Complex."

    And in my opinion it is both a useless
and often harmful way to think.

    The reality is that virtually all women,
like men, are far too complex to be so easily
labeled as one thing or the other.

    People change and evolve.  In different
circumstances we act very differently.  We like
to think that we are a certain way, and then we
act in a way that's  totally different.

    The people that know themselves the best,
who really have self-knowledge, know that the
idea of "self" or "personality" is very, very
complicated-- and it is most complicated when it
comes to sex.

    Sex is an area surrounded by all sorts of
insecurities and a million motivations that come
from parts of the brain that we don't have all
that much control over.

    Sure you can ultimately control what you
DO... but when it comes to sex it can be nearly
impossible to control what you THINK or how you
FEEL.

    And that is why the "whore/madonna
complex" is not something that exists as a way
to categorize women... but only as a "symptom" of
the way some men think.  It's an idea that has no
basis in reality.

    In fact, the vast majority of women, as
highly complex creatures, have both the "whore"
and the "Madonna" in them... they are both
"good girl" and "bad girl" at the same time.

    A normal woman, even a woman with very
high moral standards, will go through many
phases in her life-- and she will have times in
her life when she is more and less sexually
forward...

    And in fact, those shifts can happen,
back and forth, in the space of a single evening.

    An even more incredible truth is that YOU
can shift a woman's feelings and emotions about
sex and her own sexuality in the space of a
moment.

    Many, many "good girls" have been very,
very "bad" for a night.

    Just like many sexually shy girls have
become wild and sexually adventurous on a particular
night.

    Does that make them morally weak or
hypocritical?

    No, it does not. 

    I may have a hard time convincing some
guys of that fact, but the reality is, good girls
can be sexually promiscuous... and still be "good"
in the morning.

    Sometimes she will become more sexual
because she feels she deserves a break from
being so good all the time... sometimes she needs
the ego validation... sometimes she craves
adventure or excitement in her life that she's
not getting elsewhere...

    And very often, it is because she suddenly
feels a sexual "connection" to the man that she is
with at THAT MOMENT.

    That feeling of "connection" is incredibly
powerful for a woman, and it can be a very
difficult thing for us as guys to wrap our heads
around.

    Especially when sometimes women feel that
connection with the wrong guy... a jerk or some
guy who doesn't respect her.  (It's even more
frustrating for HER when that happens, I can
assure you).

    The part of the brain that processes
emotion is many times more developed in most
women compared with most men.  This works both
to women's advantage and disadvantage in different
situations.

    Now if you're anything like me... once
you realize the FACT that some guys have the
ability to bring out the sexually open and
adventurous side of women... you probably want
to know how YOU can become one of those guys!

    The good news is... you can.

    The better news is that I'm going to tell
you how.

    If you're thinking, okay, sure Alex, that
may be true of the women you know, but MY girl is
just kind of shy and repressed about sex...

    Wrong.

    Even girls who have had bad experiences
in their childhood can be learn to have powerful
and fulfilling sex.

    Let's take a look at how.

    As the boy in the story found out, you
cannot build sexual  chemistry with a woman by
being "nice" to her, buying her things, becoming
her best friend, or being the person that she
confides in.

    In fact, most of those behaviors probably
have the OPPOSITE effect.

    So what DOES work?

    There are quite a few important behaviors
that men display that bring out intensely sexual
feelings in women, but the first one that every
guy needs to learn is that women synchronize with
YOUR level of sexual comfort.

    In other words, if you are secretly shy,
insecure, or timid about YOUR sexuality or
sexual  ability, you can bet that she will be
feeling the same way.

    It will be much harder for her to open
up to you or to really express her animal desires,
because she will be feeling shy and ashamed of her
sexuality when you are around.

    It's exactly as if the emotional energy
that you are feeling is contagious.

    And because women's brains are wired so
much more powerfully to process emotions, when
you put out emotional energy that is less than
sexually confident, it makes her feel the same
way.

    And for her, it can kill desire.  It
makes her feel repressed, makes her subconsciously
want to hide her sexual desires.

    On the other hand, if you are comfortable
with your sexuality and confident in your sexual
ability, if you know what you want her to do
sexually and you are not afraid to say so without
any kind of shame or "giggle-factor," she will
synchronize with that energy too.

    Suddenly her feelings of sexual desire,
her "horniness," will not be embarrassing or
difficult for her to deal with... in fact, she
will become bold with displaying her desires and
she'll be comfortable behaving as a sexual
creature.

    Of course, not every woman is going to
be attracted to every guy.  There are all sorts of
things that come into play in attraction, from
appearance to personality...

    Women have free will, and your sexual
confidence is not going to put her into some kind
of zombie trance where she just spreads her legs.

    But if a girl has accepted a date with
you, then you can assume that she's attracted
"enough" to see where things will lead.

    In that situation, your sexual confidence
and comfort will have a profound affect on her
sexual emotions.

    But an even more targeted issue is if she
is already your girlfriend. 

    Obviously, if you're already in a sexual
relationship, then she is attracted to you... but
if she is still sexually shy with you, if she
still doesn't want to do the adventurous things
that you wish she would do with you...

    Then this is one of the major keys to
fixing that problem.

    It is not HER shyness you need to work
with, but YOURS.

    Coming into balance and harmony with your
own sexual desires is a long journey... but there
are many things that you can do RIGHT NOW that
will make her FEEL that you have that balance
and comfort.

    Here are a few of them:

    1.  Be direct and unapologetic for your
desires-- don't be afraid to talk about them or
to tell her what you want.

    2.  Take your pleasure from her body
without shame or embarrassment

    3.  Touch her with confidence, never
tentatively

    4.  Be 100% positive about her sexuality.
If you are negative or weird about it, she'll be
weird about it too.

    5.      AND be 0% negative about her
sexuality. Women respond to positive reinforcement
only-- let her know that you like the things she does
do, and don't mention the other things.

    6.  Know exactly what you are doing in
the bedroom.  Learn enough about female sexual
response so that you can be confident that you
know exactly how to give her an orgasm, and be
comfortable with doing it.

    7.  If you have any insecurities about
your own performance (problems getting hard or
ejaculating too soon when you are nervous), then
deal with those issues in your life immediately.
If you have any doubts about this stuff, you need
to download your copy of my online book right
now... the first third of the book completely
handles these issues.  There's a link at the bottom
of this newsletter if you'd like to get more info.

    8.  Never be needy.  Never make a woman
feel that your sexual validation or ego is at
stake in the bedroom.  Getting her to open up
to you sexually should not be something that you
need for you to feel good about yourself sexually.

    Believe it or not, most of these things
are behaviors that you can "fake it, 'til you
make it."

    Just displaying these characteristics
will bring out immediate and powerful changes
in  your woman's sexuality and her own ability
to share her dirtiest secrets.

    If you are tentative or shy about your
own sexuality or nervous about your own ability
to perform, she will also be ashamed of her own
desires.  If she is feeling sexual, she'll
be embarrassed by it, or feel like it's bad or
"dirty."  And she'll shut off.

    If, on the other hand, you are calm and
assured in your own sexuality, those same thoughts
in her head that made her feel dirty will suddenly
make her feel great.  She'll be excited about the
idea of sharing them with you.

    But don't forget numbers 4 and 5 above...

    If you show her any negativity about her
sharing her sexuality with you in any way, she
will shut down like a bank vault....

    Until some other guy who knows what he's
doing comes along and makes her feel good about
it again.

    All of these behaviors of sexual
confidence are actually part of a larger picture
when it comes to turning sexually shy women into
wild-girls...

    And that larger picture is sexual trust
and intimacy.

    Why would the "good girl" in the story
above feel more sexual trust for the jerk than
the boy that she was friends with?

    Because "trust" in this case is about
a woman trusting a man to know what he is
doing sexually.

    It is also trusting a man to not be
judgmental about her own sexual desires-- desires
that she might not be totally comfortable with
herself.

    What she needs is a guy who understands
how to push the psychological buttons in her
mind that make her feel that trust...

    She wants a guy who is confident enough
sexually that she won't have to lead any of the
interaction and feel like she is a "bad girl."
She wants a guy who can take responsibility for
that decision.

    She sexually desires a man who
knows how to communicate, with his body and
gestures, his actions and words, that he will
not judge her for her desires because his desires
are even deeper-- because he is totally comfortable
with his and HER sexuality.

    Can you learn to do all of this?

    Absolutely.

    I'd like you to re-read the 8 things that
you can do now to show a woman that you are
comfortable with your own sexuality.

    Then I'd like you to go out and USE those
8 action steps to start changing your sexual
relationships with women RIGHT NOW.

    When you are ready to take the next step,
when you really feel like it's time to change
yourself into the kind of guy that "good girls"
can feel totally comfortable being "bad" with,
then it's time to read my eBook and learn how
to built sexual trust in the minds of the women
that you make love to.

    It is a profound and powerful thing to
learn.  One that will change your life.

    That's no exaggeration.  It may sound
crazy to you that just being great in bed can
change your life-- but when you can connect with
another person in this way-- when you can make
a woman feel such profound pleasure that she has
an entirely new understanding of her self and of
relationships...

    It is, in fact, life changing.

    And I'm willing to prove it to you.

    Download the book and read it.  Try the
things in the book with your girlfriend.

    Then, AFTER you see what kind of amazing
things can happen, you can pay for the book.

    That's right: AFTER you read it and try
it.

    If for some reason you don't think the
ideas and information in the book are for you,
no problem-- don't pay.

    Fair?

    Of course it is.  It couldn't be more
fair than that.

    Get the details here:

    www.revolutionarysex.com

   And I'll talk to you again soon.

    Your Friend,

    Alex