"5 Ways To Last Longer In Bed"

   So there you are having sex with the most
incredibly beautiful woman...

   You've got her right where you want her and
she is getting more and more excited, breathing
heavy, moaning...

   And then she starts yelling... "Yes, right
there... I'm about to come!"

   And hearing her yell that out is so damn hot
that...

   oops.

   You can't stop yourself.  You come right at
that instant... about 5 seconds before she was
going to have the orgasm of her life.

   Haaa!  Yes, man, we have all been there.

   Now she is really frustrated and she is
thinking to herself-- this guy needs to learn
some self-control or I'm never going to get what
I need.

   And even if she is nice about it, you can't
help feeling insecure about it.  I mean, it's a
terrible feeling when you fail to fully satisfy
the woman you are with...

   And worse, is to not satisfy the woman you
love.

   Of course, you can... and SHOULD... give her
what she needs with oral sex or using your
fingers. 

   But for many women, there is no substitute for
the special intimacy that comes from having an
orgasm while you are actually making love to her.

   And even better-- if you have the kind of total
control that allows you to give her several
orgasms before finally timing it exactly right
so that you both come at exactly the same time,
together, for her last and biggest one.

   That is very special for her (and hopefully for
you too).

   For many guys, that kind of control seems
nearly impossible because they are caught between
staying excited enough to remain fully hard and
not getting too excited so that they come too
soon.

   And sometimes it just seems so unfair... that
the more you are really enjoying it, the more you
are completely turned on, the more she is driving
you wild... the shorter the time that you get to
enjoy it.

   Do you have to make a choice between being
insanely turned on and coming quickly... or being
able to last, but not being all that into it?

   No, you don't. 

   Don't worry man.  I've got 5 great ways
to make sure that you never have to deal with
that situation above anymore.

   Some of them require a bit of practice.  But
once you get the hang of it, you can become one
of those guys with total control that can hold
back or come exactly when you want to.

   Read on...


1) THE OLD BASEBALL TRICK

   I'm putting this one first, not because it is
the best (it's not), but because it's the most
common method that men use to last longer, and
you've probably already heard of it.

   And, likewise, you've probably already tried
it.  And so you know, while it's not the best...
it can work.

   Basically this one is all about distraction.

   The idea is to get your mind on something else,
preferably something that doesn't turn you on as
much as what the girl beneath you is doing.

   The most common distraction that guys joke
about is thinking about baseball statistics while
you are having sex with her.

   I'm not that interested in baseball, and I've
never tried that one, but you get the idea. 

   When you feel like you are getting too excited,
think about your taxes, what you had for dinner
last night, or counting backwards from 1001 by 7s.

   1001, 994, 987, 980, 973...

   Anything that takes your mind off HER until
your excitement level drops down a bit and you
get your control back.

   Does it work?

   Yes, it can. 

   But it's not my favorite for many reasons, not
the least of which is that the entire reason you
are in bed with this woman is to enjoy HER... not
to think about baseball or math!

   So while you might try this one, and it might
be the one that really works for you... I think
it's worth trying some of the more advanced ideas
below.

   Because while you might become better in bed
for her by lasting longer this way... you can
never really become "great" if you are not
in the moment and paying attention to her.

   And you will be cheating yourself out of the
best part of making love.


2) EXERCISE AND PRACTICE

   Yes, there are specific exercises you can do
to improve your staying power.

   And, yes, you will have to practice them to
get the maximum benefit from them.

   First things first:

   If you are overweight or out of shape, the
problem you are having could be a physical one.

   Fat leaches testosterone out of your system
and obese men frequently have trouble staying
hard no matter how excited they get.

   General physical fitness will help.

   Got it? 

   Okay... let's get more specific.

   The main exercise you should be doing is
called "Kegels" for the man, Dr. Kegel, who
invented them.

   Dr. Kegel originally came up with this exercise
to help women who had problems after giving birth,
but they turned out to have all sorts of benefits
for both men and women that he hadn't originally
intended.

   Here's how it works-- all you have to do is
contract the muscles that you use to stop the
flow of urine when you are peeing. 

   If you are not sure if you are doing them
right, then try it when you are actually
peeing-- stop the flow, let it start again, then
stop it again-- when you can do that, you are
doing them right.

   Once you've got the right muscles working, you
don't need to be peeing to do the exercise.

   In fact, you can do them anywhere-- in the car,
at your desk at work, during dinner, or right now
while you're reading this (which you probably are).

   Got ya!

   Try doing a hundred fast squeezes, and then try
holding them for ten seconds, rest a few seconds,
and then hold again.  Hold like that 10 times.

   Do these every day if you think of it, and
these muscles will get much stronger-- and much
more under your control.

   Now comes the practice part--

   Once you have greater control of your muscles
down there, you will be able to use them to
stop yourself from ejaculating in two ways.

   The first way is, when you feel yourself
getting too close to the edge, squeeze them to
keep yourself from coming.  Wait a few seconds
and you should be able to resume sex.

   (NOTE:  It is possible, when the muscles get
strong enough, that you can actually have an
orgasm without ejaculating-- or rather, you
are ejaculating, but you are forcing the come
to flow backwards into the bladder.  This is
called "retrograde ejaculation".)

   The other way is to completely relax the
muscles as if you are going to let yourself pee.

   Don't worry, if you are that sexually excited,
it is very unlikely that you will actually be
able to pee even if your bladder is full.

   When you relax the muscles and try to pee like
that, it will also prevent you from coming.

   Take yourself close the edge and stop yourself
from coming several times using each of these
methods-- squeezing the muscles completely and
relaxing them completely-- until you get more and
more control over it.

   Obviously it is easier to practice this stuff
when you are on your own, masturbating.

   But eventually, you will want to practice with
her.

   Practicing like this with your woman might
get her frustrated as you start and stop pretty
often during the learning process-- and, of
course, sometimes you mess up and can't stop
yourself!

   With practice you will get much, much more
control.

   And eventually, you will have enough
control that she will be very happy to have
been frustrated a few times during the learning
process.


3)  PASSING THE THRESHOLD

   Now that you are practicing your kegels, and
practicing stopping your ejaculation, you are
ready for the next step.

   I call it "passing the threshold" and here is
how it works.

   After you start and stop yourself several times
you will find that it takes you less and less
time to get excited and you need to stop more
frequently because you are keeping yourself so
close to the edge...

   But after a few more times, you will find that
the opposite begins to happen-- your body almost
numbs out a bit, and you can go much longer
without having to stop.

   The fact is, if you keep this up and you are
practicing with your wife or girlfriend, the
constant stopping will drive her crazy with
frustration.

   But if she hangs in there with you, when you
"pass the threshold" you will be able to go and go
nearly forever without coming.

   And it begins to get easier with practice to
reach this threshold quickly.

   The only warning here is that for some men,
once they pass this threshold, they actually
sometimes find that afterwards it difficult to
come at all.

   They just a reach a point where no matter how
hard they try, they now have the opposite problem...
and ejaculation becomes impossible.

   This doesn't last forever.  If you stop for a
a while and come back to love making later, you
should have no problem ejaculating.


4) BREATH CONTROL

   This technique originally comes from ancient
yoga meditation exercises.  And a lot of people
use it, not just for meditation but for
relaxation and relieving stress.

   I think I'm the first person who realized that
it had great potential for delaying ejaculation,
and most men who have tried it have agreed that
it works very well.

   Like the "Baseball" technique above, it
reduces your level of sexual excitement to the
point where you can control yourself...

   But what makes it so much better than the
Baseball technique is that you can still have the
pleasure of keeping your attention on the woman
you are in bed with.

   And that is kind of the whole point, right?

   It's called "Triangular Breathing" and here's
how it works.

   Take a very slow, long, deep inhale, counting
to 5.... then hold it for the same 5 beats...
then very slowly exhale for 5.

   The complete breath cycle is like the 3 legs
of an equilateral triangle.

   Continue breathing in this way for as long as
you need to during sex to keep yourself under
control.

   Taking this up one level, you can visualize
the triangle in your mind.  Now, as you breath,
imagine a light traveling along the edges of the
triangle, completing each inhale, hold, and exhale
just as the light completes each edge of the
triangle.

   One nice thing about this one is that it
doesn't require much practice.  You can probably
use it successfully TONIGHT.

   Another great thing about this technique is that
you can use it ALONG WITH the exercises above.

   Use the triangular breathing to hold off as
long as you can, then stop and use the kegel
muscle exercise to prevent yourself from coming.

   And repeat this until you pass your threshold.

   This should allow you to thrust long enough
between stopping to keep her from getting too
frustrated.

   And together they should make a great
improvement in your ability to last longer...
and your ability to have great sex.


5) INCREASE YOUR CONFIDENCE IN THE BEDROOM

   The fact is, while all of the above techniques
are extremely powerful for controlling yourself
and lasting longer, they are really just dealing
with the SYMPTOM and the not the root cause of
the problem.

   Virtually all issues dealing with maintaining
a strong, hard erection (other than the medical
ones that your doctor should be consulted about),
come down to being too nervous and unsure of
yourself in the bedroom.

   Gaining "sexual confidence" is the way to deal
with these issues at their cause and eliminate
them completely.

   Fortunately, as you use the first 4 techniques
(and practice them-- which is the fun part), you
will gain more and more of this confidence.

   The only problem is that, for many guys, the
issue has nothing to do with lasting longer.

   The best way to build sexual confidence is
to understand how to completely master her
sexual response, and her sexual trust.

   Learning to last longer is an important part
of great love-making... but most guys think it's
more important than it really is.

   The fact is, if you can last more than 10
minutes of continuous thrusting, you have way
more control than you'll ever need to be a great
lover. 

   Most women don't require or want that much
continuous intercourse because they dry out from
the friction, and then it just starts to hurt.

   After that much time it's a good idea to take
a little break, change positions, maybe get a
glass of water...

   In this way, you can last all night if you
like.

   But some guys think they need to last longer
because they don't understand the more important
aspects of becoming a great lover.

   They would do far better to spend their effort
learning this other stuff rather than trying to
last longer.

   The fact is, when you really understand this
stuff, it is very often possible to give a woman
an orgasm within seconds.

   And when you reach that level of mastery, the
confidence that you feel really does eliminate
the problem of not being able to last long
enough.

   Once the stress and pressure are eliminated,
you are free to just really enjoy the woman you
are with, and lose yourself in the experience.

   And that's the goal.

   So while I very strongly encourage you to try
every one of the techniques above, and to work on
the muscular and mental control of your sexuality,
I really hope that you will take the next step...

   There is so much more for you to learn, so many
more techniques and ideas that will let you take
your woman far past anything she ever dreamed was
possible in a sexual experience.

   And all of it is in one convenient place.  You
can get the details and download it right here:

  How To Last Longer In Bed