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Question About Female Ejaculation
***QUESTION***
I'm a woman who has discovered something that I
didn't know could happen. I was in the midst of
intercourse and all of a sudden liquid started to
squirt from me by the cup full it seems. I was so
embarrassed. I thought I was urinating on him, so I
started to cry. My partner appeared to be in shock.
He expressed that he heard of squirting but he
never experienced it. I was previously married, but
never experienced anything close to that with my
ex husband or my other 2 sex partners. Is this
something he can only make me do? Is it a special
chemistry? Is squirting okay?
>>>MY REPLY:
I'm so glad that you partner had heard about
female ejaculation and that he was able to
reassure you that it is TOTALLY OKAY.
In the past there has been so much
misunderstanding about female ejaculation, and so many
women, like you, have been humiliated and thought
they were doing something "wrong" or that it was
pee.
There was a time, not so very long ago, when
a woman like you-- a woman capable of massive
levels of sexual pleasure-- might have been so
humiliated by an event like that, that she forever
after held back when she was having sex...
Some women probably never allowed themselves
to have an orgasm again and became completely
repressed and psychologically and emotionally
broken.
Other women would have continued to experience
female ejaculation by themselves, masturbating... but never
again with her husband who rejected her after her
"accident"... and depriving BOTH of them of the
beauty and the intimacy of shared sexual passion.
Ouch.
But the simple fact is, while very few women
spontaneously experience "squirting," those that
do USUALLY assume that they were having such an
intense orgasm that they simply lost control of
their bladder and peed.
And it's easy to understand why--
Female ejaculation comes out of the urethra
(the pee hole), not the vagina. And it is thinner
and more water-like than the normal lubricating
fluid that comes from the vagina...
However, scientific studies have shown through
chemical analysis-- it is NOT pee.
If you'd care to prove it to yourself, here's
an experiment that you can do at home-- Eat a
bunch of asparagus-- you'll notice that asparagus
gives the urine a very particular smell... and
you'll notice NONE of that smell when you experience female ejaculation.
The female ejaculation comes from a small group
of glands that sit behind the g spot in the vagina
called the "intra-urethral glands" and they are,
basically, a female version of the prostate.
So I hope that answers your question as to
whether squirting is "okay".
As for your other questions...
Is it something that only he can make you do?
No, it is something that YOU make you do. It
is something that every woman is capable of...
though not all women will expel that much liquid,
but it requires a HUGE amount of sexual surrender
to make it happen.
Some women can only do it alone, some only
with the right partner, but in all cases, it is a
special place of sexual trust.
You are VERY lucky to have found a partner that
can coax that kind of trust and surrender from you,
and I hope that you both honor the relationship
accordingly.
Because, yes, it is very "special chemistry"
that allowed it to happen for you guys.
***SUCCESS STORY***
Hi Alex, Recently I purchased a copy of your
book and I'd like to let you know that it worked.
We had a number of best love making experiences with
my wife. That helped us to advance to next level
in our relationship, and introduced much more
pleasure for both of us into our bedroom life. BTW,
I am person with Cerebral Palsy and the book worked.
It proves one more time that your physical
qualities, strength and even coordination are not
what matters most.
I find it essential to mention, that in my opinion
your book is not really about sex. In my opinion,
it is all about love, and that is just amazing.
I learned to feel, understand and sense my wife much
deeper than I was able to before. I truly needed
that piece of philosophy I found in your book to
understand my wife. I am pretty sure, that for
most men, including me, it's not possible to
understand what's going on (without help) since
we're so different than women.
Surprisingly, I reevaluated my life as well. After
reading your book I turned upside down other
aspects of my life as well, and I feel great. It's
a major breakthrough.
My wife [...] also thanks you and wishes that more
men read your book, since there are so many unhappy
women in our world.
Thanks, man :-)
V.
>>>MY REPLY
You are so very welcome, my friend.
And THANK YOU so much for writing in with your
beautiful story.
Yes, as you pointed out, the book is about more
than just sex... but not everyone who reads it will
ever understand that.
All the basic techniques and "what to do" stuff
is in there for the guys that need that-- and for
the guys that are already at that level, and ready
for something bigger-- there is an opportunity to
take their relationship to an intimate level that
I believe can be "spiritual."
It is so great to hear that you and your wife
"get it" and that you are exploring these more
advanced ideas from the book to bring happiness
to your lives.
Again, thank you so much for sharing your story.
Not everyone is ready for the things you are
talking about, and I want to be helpful to guys at
every level, but it is really for couples like
you that I get the most satisfaction from what I
am writing.
***QUESTION***
hey whats up? i was wondering if you had a tip
on how to shoot your ejaculation instead of
dribbling it or having it just come uneventful.
is there some kind of trick? preparation? or just
luck of the draw?
- JT
>>>MY REPLY:
Well, thanks man... for asking the weirdest
question that I've gotten in a long while.
I'm not really sure why it's important enough
to you to get some range going on your rifle
that you would write me an email...
Target practice?
Basically I like to focus on questions about
how to give your woman profound sexual pleasure
and give couples the sexual tools to massively
increase intimacy through the sharing of brain
meltingly hot sex...
But that gets kind of heavy after a while so
here you go...
Yes! You can increase the volume and force
of your ejaculations.
First, start doing PC exercises like "Kegels"
to strengthen the muscles down there.
Here's how:
Just squeeze the muscles that allow you to
stop the stream of urine when you're peeing. It's
the same muscles that make your erection bob up
and down when you're hard.
Flex them hard for a few seconds and release.
Do it 100 times, every day. You can also try
holding the flex for 10 seconds-- this might be
difficult in the beginning.
The great news about doing PC exercises is
that it will also give you more control over
your erection AND strengthen your orgasms.
Second, the LONGER YOU CAN HOLD OFF before
ejaculation when you are having sex, the more
semen will build up in your prostate, and the
more powerfully you will eject it when you finally
do ejaculate. Hold off as long as you can...
especially when you feel it building up in there.
Good news for you girlfriend, hm?
Going a few days without sex or jerking off
might build up more as well-- but forget that one...
The pay off is not worth the price.
Have fun. Hope you get a bulls-eye.
***COMMENT ON MY NEWSLETTER ABOUT WOMEN WHO HAVE ABUSIVE PASTS***
It's not always that simple. Some men are not
mature enough to understand that. Example I have
a female relative who was sexualy abused as a child,
age 7 or 8, by a cousin who was 16 to 17 years old.
When she grew up around 17 to 18 years old she told
her family about it and they complete ignored it and
continued to talk to the cousin like nothing happened.
They all basically dismissed anything she said like
it never happened. Later when she got older around
21 to 22 years old, she was coming home from work
at night and a group of men passed by her and one
of them grabbed her breast. Nothing more happened
but she went straight home and told her soon to be
husband about it. His answer was she must have done
something to provoke it. Society does not want to
here that ugly part of life and we are conditioned
to ignore it. Some women will bark to no end about
their sexual abuse but most don't bother because
our society doesn't want to here it.
-JB
>>> MY REPLY:
Thanks for your serious-minded reply JB, I
want you to know that I could not agree more.
I hope that I did not give the idea in my
Newsletter that helping your wife or girlfriend
get over past sexual abuse was EASY.
It is NEVER easy.
And unfortunately, the story you told about
you cousin is incredibly common. It is indeed
easier to ignore these issues than deal with
them. And in her case, she did not FORCE them to
deal with it.
Should they suddenly stop talking to a man that
they have known their whole lives based on her
story? Could they even be certain that she was
telling the truth? And it happened so long ago...
It is easier to pretend they never heard it
than go through the hell of dealing with it.
This is what we call "cowardice".
It is no more and no less than a complete lack
of moral courage.
If your cousin had gone crazy and tried to
hurt herself or ended up in a psychiatric ward,
they would have been forced to deal with it... but,
ironically, HER strength and courage allowed them
to remain cowards.
Her husband, for his part, needs a spanking.
His fear of having to DO something made him
behave in the most disgusting way of all:
He blamed the victim.
It is sickening that some "men" are so far
removed from what it means to be a real man.
I am fully confident that you would have done
far better in his situation.
Thanks again for sharing your story-- I believe
it will help others to understand how hard it is
in our society for women who have suffered abuse
in their past.
***QUESTION***
hi Alex my name is [female name] and i have a
serious problem that is getting me a bit down. I
can only cum once when i am having sex with my
partner, this is getting me down because when i
do cum i dont realy want to have sex any more and
want my boyfriend to just hurry up and get it over
with. I feel as though i am a man who can only cum
the once i want to have multiple orgasms and keep
going please help im open to any advice or tips.
Thanks
-R
>>>MY ANSWER:
Whoa... I have so much to say to you and not
enough space to say it all...
First of all, you CAN come more than once.
You just haven't done it yet, and it may take
some work to get there.
But that's NOT your problem... I'll get to that
in a minute...
I should tell you first that while it's more
COMMON that after a woman has her first orgasm,
that the second and third come more easily...
it is not at all that unusual for the opposite to
be true.
Chances are, the way that you will solve this
problem is by experimenting with having g-spot
orgasms and deeper, cervical orgasms... these
generally are more accessible for multiples than
clitoral orgasms.
If you've never experienced a G-spot orgasm
and you feel like you've tried it and it didn't
do much for you, the GREAT NEWS is that you don't
have to give up.
There's studies that show that if you are
persistent about stimulating the right area
when you are highly aroused, that over time,
G-spot sensitivity increases and you will
probably eventually be able to have G-spot
orgasms.
But, like I said, this is not really your
problem.
The problem is that you are not enjoying
sex after your orgasm and that you are impatient
for it to end.
This means that you are missing out on the
BEST PART of sex.
Now I have no way of knowing, based on your
short e-mail, WHY you are closed off to this
BEST PART. That is work for you and your
boyfriend, and potentially a therapist...
But the best part of making love is the
intimacy that is shared between you.
And while that may sound like la-la, fairy
tale stuff... consider this:
Virtually every man that is reading this
Newsletter is not reading it to improve his OWN
orgasm... he is reading it to give his PARTNER
greater pleasure.
Turns out we can get our selves to come just
fine without you ladies.
And most women feel the same way-- that there
is HUGE pleasure in satisfying their PARTNER.
Now, to get that pleasure you've got to TUNE
IN to what your partner is experiencing. You've
got to get emotionally, or at minimum, PHYSICALLY
connected and present with him.
If you are just enjoying your own fantasy in
your head and getting purely selfish physical
sensation within your own bubble, you won't
experience this... and you will be missing out,
as I say, on the BEST PART.
I now include a "Couple's Guide" as a bonus
book for everyone who orders my eBook for EXACTLY
this reason.
Here's what I suggest for you--
Start trying to tune into your partner during
sex. Really become PRESENT-- not thinking about
the past, the future, or anything else that is
outside of the two of you and the present moment.
Give the sexual act your full and undivided
attention. See if you can find what is delicious
and wonderful about HIS desire and HIS pleasure.
Completely stop thinking about your own orgasm.
It will happen anyway. Don't worry. In fact, it
will happen sooner, and far more POWERFULLY.
And if you can (this will be WAY harder than
it sounds), hold eye contact with your partner
while you make love... especially when each of
you experiences orgasm.
If you tap into this intimacy, there's an
excellent chance that not only will you have
profoundly more pleasurable sex and more
powerful orgasms... you just might surprise
yourself by having another... and another one
before you are done.
***QUESTION***
Hey My name is [...], and when i'm fingering or
going down on my girlfriend sometimes she will
make me stop because the sensation is too strong for
her to handle. Does that mean she reached the
point of orgasm and is too sensitive to continue
going?
- D
>>>MY REPLY:
Maybe.
Some women do, in fact, get overly sensitized
after orgasm and find continued contact too much
to handle for a short while and need to take a
break.
But more likely, she is right on the edge of
orgasm and is unable to cross over to the other
side.
This kind of "pleasure panic" is incredibly
common. Orgasm, for many women, is a huge act of
surrender. She is not comfortable losing
control of herself that way.
Especially in front of you. But often women
can't do it alone either. They just PANIC when
they feel the rush of the oncoming orgasm.
That's why so much of my book is about earning
her complete "Sexual Trust".
Once you do that, she will surrender herself
to you completely and you can gently guide her
across her fears to the other side-- and she will
have a mind-blowing orgasm.
Learning to build Sexual Trust is the key to
most of the advanced sexual knowledge that you
will ever encounter, and I strongly recommend
that you download your copy of my online eBook
right now and READ it. It will change the way
you think about this situation completely.
And if you spend a little time working at it,
you will give her her very first orgasm. Which
is pretty cool.
To make it super-easy for you to do the right
thing, here's the way I have arranged it...
You can read it first, BEFORE you pay for it,
so that you can be SURE it's right for you.
Plus, you know, it's under 30 bucks... which
is pretty cheap for the best sexual experience of
your life. Hm?
Get all the info here:
Revolutionary Sex: Advanced Sex Tips For Men
Female Ejaculation Tips from the book Revolutionary Sex
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